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Fish out of water
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   Posted 6/19/2011 4:25 PM (GMT -6)   
why is it that whatever we do for people, it is never realized by them!? why dont people think that what goes back comes around. Then again have u seen such a case? what goes back comes around case? i haven't! who ever plays cleverly and cheats the other wins over the innocent and so the innocent is shattered and live like that forever. Why people are so selfish. Why there is no true lover and no true friend?
I gave everything for a guy. I lived for him. Years went by day dreaming about him and me and our future which turns out as a crap.
I am so tired of giving and giving to people. I have never been given.
I gave so much to him. He promised to never leave. No one could love him as much as i did. He accepted that. Then why he left me for just a negative aspect in me. That i started to suspect him. Just cause i loved him a lot.
Every one loves us for the positive things in us. If ever there is something wrong, do we deserve to be thrown away.
He made mistakes. MANY! i left him but then came back.
I feel miserable. I feel sick.

getting by
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   Posted 6/19/2011 5:24 PM (GMT -6)   
What goes around does come around. Just not always from the same person. If you do nice things for people, nice things will come to you, but it isn't always right away or from the same person. Besides we do nice things because we want to, not because we expect something in return. Your boyfriend could just have changed and decided that he wanted out of the relationship. That happens in life. But usually we seem to notice the relationship going sour. But then again it could happen out of the blue too. So you are never sure about things in life. It sounds like you are young yet. You will find another guy and it will probably be when you very least expect it. So try not to let this get you down too much. Try to pick yourself up and start again. This isn't the end of the world, though it might feel that way right now. You will be feeling better soon.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 6/19/2011 8:49 PM (GMT -6)   
When I reflect on people I've loved who pretty much abandoned me, I force myself to turn it into a positive thing by saying, "God, thank You for loving me enough to keep me away from those who didn't."

And if that doesn't help, I like to think of what Marilyn Monroe once said:
"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."

Fish out of water
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   Posted 6/21/2011 4:58 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanku so much Karen and meowmeow! That means so much! God bless!

I was talking to my best friend when she told me that he (my boyfriend) inboxed her on facebook. Asking her that how i was and was i happy and good and told her not tell me about this that he messaged her please. Which she did cause as soon as we broke up i made her swear that she will tell me. So she did. She dint reply to him cause i had already told her not to and i just told her to block him off!
I'm just so amazed at my self that how im reacting. Im not thinking too much now. Just doing things stupidly childishly whatever comes to my mind. I have been wanting him to ask about me or care for me from 3 weeks that we broke up. But now it feels miserable to hear that he asked about me. Im hating him more.
I loved him so much and he loved me so much! Now i know why people used to say that love is not enough! and i used to wonder nah!
My friends used to tell me 'the hottest love has the coldest ending' now i know what it means!
I miss him at times now. But we aren't meant to be. That's how i satisfy my self!

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   Posted 6/21/2011 6:24 AM (GMT -6)   
Dear FishoutofWater,
Always remember that you can't give all you have of yourself to someone else.  You can love someone very much, but you have to keep some of you FOR YOU.  You have to be your own person, you can't live entirely for someone else.  If you give all you have away, what is there left for them to care for? There are people in this world that are completely self-involved and will take as much as you are willing to give them, without giving you anything of themselves.  These are very one-sided relationships, and inevitably doomed to failure.  The person who has done all the giving suddenly finds that they are emotionally bankrupt, and I think this is what you have encountered.  Obviously, time has given you some perspective on the situation, and the next time you fall head-over-heels for someone, just remember to keep an eye on the balance of the relationship.  If you aren't getting the same kind of response back, pick yourself up by your bootstraps and move on.
Best of luck!
Leigh Ann scool
•On Disability for: Chronic Migraines, serious Back and Knee problems (will need surgery eventually), moderate Depression, Anxiety/Panic disorder, TMJ, stomach problems
•Divorced, 45, spawn-free


Fish out of water
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   Posted 6/21/2011 3:19 PM (GMT -6)   
thanku so much Leigh Ann! u got me thinking much. Thanks a ton! I needed a self esteem booster as such! Helped a lot! Very kind. God bless u! :)
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