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Date Joined Mar 2005
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   Posted 3/18/2005 8:31 AM (GMT -6)   
i have met a man who is a normie, i do not know when or how to reveal my hiv status.  will i be accepted?  i hate this stuff...new member here looking for myself.  lisa

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   Posted 3/18/2005 11:50 AM (GMT -6)   
(((((Lisa))))) i don't have any advise, i just wanted say hi and welcome. if and when you do tell, i hope it's recieved ok. good luck......JohnD
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   Posted 3/18/2005 12:49 PM (GMT -6)   
sad  Lisa,
I am so sorry that this is happening to you. Even though I don't you, I can feel your pain. It's not fair, is it? On your question, speaking of what I would do, I would have to tell the truth. It will come out eventually so it is better to tell him now before you or he falls head over heals. Also there is the responsibility of "safe sex" and caution. I can't advise but I can tell you only what would be right for ME to do. Donno if this helps but what else can I say.
Big hugs
There is no such word as can't. Can't simply means wouln't. Grab as much as life as you can. Future is a long way away for those who don't believe. Don't build a foundation of life on sand. It will take it away with the tide. Love a little more, be unkind a lot less.

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   Posted 3/18/2005 9:25 PM (GMT -6)   
h2lf--thank you and i agree 100%. i have always felt that i am lying if i know someone is attracted to me and i don't come right out with it.... so far there has only been one time when i did reveal immediately and i was accepted anyway, but it was a sick relationship, eventually he used it against me when i decided i had to get out: i guess we always know the answer to our questions inside, i would like to know how others do it....so far i have been out for coffee with this man and i really like him. i have come along way with my acceptance of this disease and the depression that came with it- is somewhat lifted. i really don't want a set back but i don't want to be alone for the rest of my life either. lisa
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