Posted 6/22/2011 2:51 PM (GMT -6)
Welcome to the depression forum. I highly recommend you go to counseling and get your self esteem back. Clearly it is you he loves. Try not to compare yourself to her. And try not to think about it either. I don't know if he had an afair or if they were just friends, but if he had anything to hide, he wouldn't have told you about her.
I really think with counseling, you would feel better about yourself and be able to see this with the objective eye instead of an insecure person. I really think he loves you. This woman must have really helped him through a rough time. It probably made him love you more.
If he is comparing you to her, that isn't fair. That is why I suggest counseling. I think it would help you through this. It would also help you see it from a different point of view.
I guess I need a little more information to give you advice. If you think he is in love with her instead, then I would take a break from the relationship and see what happens. But I think he loves you.
Tell us a little more. And you are not poison. And yes, only you can make yourself feel better. Keep your chin up. I don't think it is as bad as you think it is. He isn't hiding it. But I am not in your shoes, so I don't know.