confusion in the relation

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Dia89
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Date Joined Jun 2011
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   Posted 6/30/2011 2:10 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi I am 22 yr old working Girl. recently for about a month back i met a person in a social network,we both became good friends and shared our contacts and started speaking to each other.Later i goto know that one of my friend knows him from past 2 years,so i thought of asking some detaisl about this guy.My friend gave me a fare details about him saying that he was a very good person and he had liked her but she dint wanted to get commited and so remained as good friends. Later when i checked with him about my friend he said the same...so i trusted him . The day had come when we started liking each other and even met for lunch.his behavior was very decent,thats what i expected him to be. We did go for shopping where he did not allow me to spend a single money,he himself took care of all the expenses of the day. I was happy that he loved me truly. I remaind honest to him. He was very busy at work,once i told him that he is not spending much time with me then he said sorry for that and started spending little more time with me.Evrything was fine.One day i dont know why i felt like testing him. So i created a duplicate mail id and sent him a chat request which he accepted and started chating with me..later he askd for my number and i gave him one of my friend's number and asked her speak to him. same night he called her up and started speaking to her.When i tried to call him his number was busy he messeged me that he is talking to his boss.I felt very sad because he lied me...later my friend called me and told me that he told her that he is not in relation with any girl as he dint get any right girl in his life yet,after hearing this i was darn hurt,i could not bare it,I dint know what to do, i just started cryng finally I thouht its time to tel him good bye.So i called him up and told whatever happend and he hurted me a lot and its better to break up.so he said me that he knew that i was testing him, purposfully to teach me a lesson he kept quit and he said me that m very cheap for not trusting him, he was very upset for what i did with him. I was so confused with all this,again i sent him a msg saying that whatever i did it was oly bcoz i lovd himtruly and din wanted to loose him,if this is a big mistake of me i will move away from him. then he said that he wants to talk to me and he called me and asked why all this happend and all. I explained all that what happend then he asked for my mother's number and slept. Next day morning he called me and was speaking but as i was at work i could not talk to him, i said i wil talk to him later. After that when i msgd he hardly replied me and he sent he would meet me and dicide something. But I really cant live withou him I am fed up and not able to come out of it.Please help me.

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   Posted 6/30/2011 8:45 AM (GMT -6)   
I think you should be completely honest with anybody in a relationship. Don't try to test him. It only backfired. I think he still cares about you. So I hope that the relationship- can be saved.. But if it can't there will be other men in your life. Try not to play any games with him. like what you did that day. Just be honest. If you don't trust him, let him know. But try to trust. It is easy to misinterpret what is going on when you don't trust somebody. You see only negatives, no positives.

You will get through this and I think he will give you another chance. If not, then you must move on.

Best wishes.

Hugs, Karen
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Dia89
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Date Joined Jun 2011
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   Posted 7/1/2011 12:04 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you so much for the suggestion Karen I feel guilt about what i have done and as you have said he has given me another chance, I wil not repeat this again. Thank you for the help.
 
Dia :)
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