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Fish out of water
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   Posted 7/1/2011 12:57 PM (GMT -6)   
I just found out that the guy i loved was cheating over me. Now though its over but hes been cheating from quite a lot of time i believe. Im torn apart even more. I just feel so under estimated... that girl is a model. Shes pretty! i have heard that shes good at heart too. But i feel bad and jealous much...
He tried to contact me but my instincts stopped me from pursuing any further. Weird thing is that i still love him a lot. I still cant believe that hes been doing that... I just thought i let u know. I just feel a fool out of myself. I feel ugly and never dress up the way i used to. I m just too tired of things.

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   Posted 7/1/2011 2:09 PM (GMT -6)   
Dont let this cause you to feel like a fool. You are not a fool. And you are not ugly. Though I know how you feel. I just want you to know that what he did was wrong. And you didn't deserve it. He is the fool. You are a good person, never underestimate that. I know you are tired, and I know you are hurt. You deserve to be able to feel these feelings, but never think of yourself as a fool. You will learn from this. I hope it doesn't ruin any trust issues you might have with somebody else. But for now, I would work on getting yourself feeling better and back to the normal you. This could take some time. Jealousy is normal. But don't let it cause you to feel like less of a person. Angry is normal too. Write down your feelings and your goals to the way that you want to feel. You can over come this. It is just going to take a little time. I hope that you feel better soon. I am sorry that this happened. But it is better that you find out now than later.

Hugs, Karen

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Fish out of water
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Date Joined Jun 2011
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   Posted 7/1/2011 3:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanku Karen! I will try that out soon. I hope it helps!
U know what.. I miss him. I have so many reasons to love him. I have so many memories. I cant stop blaming myself for everything. But then again, i have never in my life gone so over the top for anybody at all... I just feel empty handed. I have no relations anymore. I had distance everyone cause i had him and now i feel so lonely. Im tired of wearing a smile on my face and facing the world. Im just so tired of being so fake and not being myself. But of i ever am upset, they ask questions and i cant answer any of them. I had plans to get married to him... I just cant believe that it was all a trap...
My brother used to tell me that hes not a good guy. I used to argue with him. He was right! i feel guilty for not listening to him first hand. I have been so down that i feel lazy and unable to move out of my bed. I dont eat. I dont even feel hungry now.
I dont understand if he was using me, why he keeps asking my friends that how im feeling.. Is it because he wants to have an ear to my personal life and laugh at how i feel? I just cant stop loving him. I just cant believe i thought it was forever.....

getting by
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   Posted 7/1/2011 4:27 PM (GMT -6)   
I don't think he is laughing at you. He is probably feeling guilty for what he did. I don't think he even hurt you intentionally. He probably wont be faithful to the other girl either. Maybe he is just that type of guy. He wants his cake and eat it too. But you aren't probably the type of woman to put up with that. Some do, some don't.

I really do hope that you feel better soon. It is going to take time. Now you have to work on you. Be good to yourself.

Hugs, Karen
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Fish out of water
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Date Joined Jun 2011
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   Posted 7/2/2011 6:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Yep i agree with u! he called me today! I was sleeping, woke up and saw his messages and calls! hes asking for another chance. Should i or should i not?
I said no to him straight away. Cause i remembered all that he said to me when we fought. He was rude and hurt me much. But on the other hand i love him too.
Should i give him a chance? if i do and he ever does such a thing again. Im sure i ll be too hurt to move on! but whats ur opinion?

getting by
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   Posted 7/2/2011 7:35 PM (GMT -6)   
Man, I don't know what to tell you. I am proud of you for saying no to him straight away. The question is will he be hurtful again if you get into an argument or something? Will he cheat on you again? I think you should work on you and I believe that the rest will fall into place. Continue being good to yourself. Trust your instincts. If it is meant to be, it will.

Hugs, Karen
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