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   Posted 7/3/2011 9:24 PM (GMT -6)   
I have been suffering from depression for quite some time and have had to switch medications..and it helped at first, but I am having memory issues, and I just don't care about is "WORK" to function...I use all my energy to take care of my kids...but it's all overwhelming. I am ashamed to admit this, but I did not shower for a month...I know I need to do things, but "I will do them later" then all I want to do is sleep...I have done everyone's laundry but my own..and I don't care...I know it needs to be done, but I don't have the energy to do it. Am I beyond the point of helping?  I mean I am calling my dr. Tuesday, but I've known I should call my dr and I haven't. I know I should deal with that phone call, but I don't...bill collectors call...I should deal with it, but I don't, now I have to deal with Lawyers...b

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   Posted 7/3/2011 11:42 PM (GMT -6)   
thank you so much for responding! I feel so desperate and am crying as I type because it is just so overwhelming...I cannot belive I did the shower thing...but it honestly did feel like too much work...I really hope I can get things on the right track with the help of my dr and am trying to find a new therapist...Just feel like you wrote, "when will it happen for me?" I know I have a ton to be thankful for and that make me happy...but depression almost doesn't let me just enjoy it...the feeling of happiness is actually scary for me...I don't know how to just be happy because all I am used to is saddness and darkness...powerful disease

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   Posted 7/4/2011 3:58 AM (GMT -6)   
It really sounds like you need a dosage adjustment, or a change. But it the med worked good for you at one time, it probably just needs to be increased. In addition to antidepressants, I take a mood stabilizer. I found it helps my depression meds work better and it stabilizes me out. You might want to mention that to the doc and see what he thinks.

I have been where you are. And when we are depressed, the first thing we let go is ourselves. I don't think we feel worthy of self nurturing. That is how I can tell when I am getting depressed, my personal hygiene suffers. And sometimes you are just too fatigued. But once you jump in that shower, you do feel better. So try to take care of you. That should be your main concern right now. Talk to the doctor about a medicatin adjustment, and maybe even get into some counseling. It really does help our self esteem.

I hope that you feel better soon hon.

Hugs, Karen...
PS, I saw you posted the same post twice so I deleted one of them...
Hugs, again, I sure do hope that you feel better soon...

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   Posted 7/4/2011 7:01 AM (GMT -6)   
You are not beyond help or hope. Please consult your Dr. asap, you probably do need a med change or something. If that still does not help then you are going to have to find a way to help yourself. Please start taking care of yourself, you will not be of any value to your family that you obviously care about if you are not well. I have been depressed before but never to the point I refused to bathe for a month. I am sorry you are hurting but just do not give up hope, nothing is impossible, you can do this, you can feel better. Try starting by loving yourself, yes, let me repeat that again, love yourself and forgive yourself of anything you feel guilty about and forgive others who you feel have wronged you. Make a list of all the positive things in your life. Take a long hot bath with lit candles and groom like you have not in ages. Limit your sleep, 7-9 hours and then out of that bed. Oversleeping zaps your energy, try to get a routine on sleeping.

Good luck honey and I hope something positive will happen to you today that will put a smile on your face. If life is not working out for you, then the way you have been living is wrong for you, change it up and see what happens.

Sending healing vibes into the universe for you!

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