My father passed away in june of 09. My parents had been married for 35 years. My father had struggled with hep c and a liver transplant in 1985. My mom was a rock for him for everything. He was diagnosed with cancer and passed away within a few months. I live 2 states away and am not able to get back home as frequently as I would like. I just went home for an extended weekend and was suprised at the state of mind she was in. She has been bitter and tired after my father passed away, but it seems like she is even more depressed than ever. She is angry and has let her house go, even moving furniture out of the house and into a shed. There are kitchen chairs in the house, but no table because it was collecting trash so she just took it outside. Other furniture has also been removed. I have had a few calls from a friend lately who is a county sherriff and patrols at night. He has inquired about her not sleeping and being up at all hours when he goes by. She has become verbally abusive towards her neighbors, who have always been there for her and dad. Her and I have had a hard time communicating since dad passed away. I am unsure of how to help her. I tried to get her to go to counceling, she declined. A friend did get her to go to a support group, she became angry and left. Any suggestions would be helpful. This is a brief overlay of what we have going on. I know I have left a lot out, sorry.