Trouble with my sister.

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   Posted 7/10/2011 7:10 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm not close to my sister and she does not visit me ever. I visit her sometimes. We rarely talk to one another. She does not care about my health concerns. She does not want me around my nephew thinking that I may get him sick, because I'm always sick. I'm sad to have a non-supportive sister around. My relatives are more supportive of my illness. I can talk to them more. My Mom told me that she has her life and I have mine, so no one cares and that my sister and I are both two unhappy people that she does not want to be around.
Fibromyalgia, SLE Lupus, antiphospholipid syndrome, hypoglycemia, sjogren's syndrome, chronic myofacia pain syndrome, cerivcalgia, malaise, chronic fatigue, migraines, and anxiety.

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   Posted 7/10/2011 7:55 PM (GMT -6)   
I have a similar relationship with my sister but different circumstances. We met for the first time in our 30's, we both have fibromyalgia. But we both have different beliefs. I am the one that always has to initiate contact. If she calls me on her own, I am shocked. But hers is that she is so concerned about herself and her health that she forgets about everybody else and their life's situations.

It sounds like you have a lot of ailments. And some of them are invisible, like the fibro and the myofacia pain syndrome. That is something that only we know about, because people can't see that we are in pain. I kind of feel your mom is right. You both live different lives. She is living hers and you yours. Have you ever told her how you feel? What did she say? Sometimes we have to get a different support system. Or be our own. We can't depend on others to do that for us. They don't know what we are going through. I, myself, don't necessarily like talking about my fibro or my depression. But I don't mind talking about somebody elses. I take medications to keep things under control. I am in pain, I have accepted that I am always going to have pain. I don't like it, but I don't let it control my life.

I hope that you and your sister can somehow build a relationship. I hope I can with mine one day. But until then, we do have to live our own lives.

Best wishes to you.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 7/11/2011 6:05 AM (GMT -6)   
Talk with your PCP to make sure nothing you have is going to pass to a young child..
most of your illness are autoimmune and the child is more likely to get you sick than
the other way around, but do get tested for petussis (sp?) and then maybe talk to
your sister to see if you could both go to a counseling session, together to maybe
work things out...if not maybe just seek out counseling for yourself, maybe a pain
management psychologists could help...
well wishes in what you do, keep us posted
* So many dx's I could write a book* "It would be nice if we could use the edit button in real life"...
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