Geeezzzzzz! What a mess my family is! It's getting to me so I have to now stay out of much of this, as I have only just now regained a tidbit of health in the last 3 months.
My Aunt demanded and her daughter asked that we not get involved now. I can't help but think "Whaaaaaat????"
At least my cousin did listen politely as I explained about
how I felt my Aunt was in not just a bad place, but a dangerous one and that it was far too late to believe that this would resolve on it's own. My Aunt is in need of treatment - I'm convinced of it. My cousin at least entertained the thought while on the phone with me.
The funny thing, It's Genetic - she was married to a wonderful CPA for many years until she kicked him out for an imagined affair. Even after they divorced this man stayed and took care of all of the paper work for her, but I believe this only enabled her more. I know what you are suggesting isn't the same, but my aunt won't speak to anyone about
these matters, which is why I was asking about
interventions. She literally wants to just bury her head and wait until it's all gone. She won't even listen to why she can't bury her head. She is refusing to talk about
this to her sister (my Mom), her daughter or her son. She refuses to even tell anyone where the paperwork is. I know I can't step in because I'm the black sheep of the family (
) - of course that doesn't mean that I don't want to - it's that I would been seen as an outsider and it would only make matters worse.
With the issue of the divorce, she is faced with losing literally everything
, car, house, retirement, everything. The work related issue she is supposed to be fighting so that she has
a retirement! She knows about
this, but not only does she not want to face that she still doesn't even want to do the exercises she has to do
after having had a total knee replacement. She has already had the other knee replaced so it's not like she doesn't understand what needs to be done. This is why I got scared and why I got involved. NO one in their right mind doesn't care if the have a place to live in, a car to drive, or a retirement that they have worked all of their life for.
Karen, we - well they (like I said, I'm the black sheep -Baaah) have been trying to talk her into accepting help. I reached out because my Aunt had been refusing the help. My Mom went to stay with her for two weeks after the surgery, now her daughter is there and we are a full month past the surgery, and it's still the same thing. I'm beginning to think my Aunt is farther into depression than anyone realizes now.
From what I understand, everyone has given her all of the chances they are going to give - meaning the lawyers and the courts.
I have now taken that deep breath, and although it doesn't look good, my mom and I have been asked to essentially leave things alone.
Thank you all so very much for your help and your concern!! It has made a big difference for me, as you gave me a place to turn to for comfort and understanding.
I will forever be grateful!
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Treating with Acupuncture, Traditional & Modern Chinese Medicine & Western Herbs.
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I break up my post because my eyes have been effected by TBI's as well, which makes long paragraphs very hard to read.