Welcome to the HealingWell Depression forum. Maybe you should tag along and see what is so fun over there. Maybe you would end up going too. I couldn't hurt.
But I think the main thing is that you start doing your own things without your wife and kill some time that way. In relationships we often do our own things. Maybe if you made plans to do some fun things like camping, or bowling with the family that would keep you all together more. I don't know.
I don't have this problem because my husband and I both are working for the same things. We do a lot together, but we both have our own friends. If he is feeling left out, he sure doesnt say anything about it. I don't feel left out of what he does. I guess we are older too and we fall into a routine. We get up together and go to bed together, but during the day we are both busy.
I am sorry that she is treating you like you are jealous and insecure. I am sorry that she sounds like she gets defensive about it when you bring it up. You do have wants and needs and they need to be addressed. I hope that you two can work something out. Keep trying and see what happens.
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