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Gingy99
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   Posted 7/18/2011 6:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Well, I'm not sure what to say, I never done this before. A friend of mine told me about this sight and I decided to check it out. :( All I want is some someone to talk to, someone that will tell me more than "I don't know what to tell you." A bad break up a few months ago left me heart broken and feeling numb, my heart is so numb I feel as though I have frostbite in my chest. I feel so lonely and depressed... I honestly don't know what to do or say, I have been hiding it so well but there's only so much that can stay hidden. I been burying it deeper and deeper and its ligterally knawing away at my soul. Someone just tell me something that will help. Please. :'(

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   Posted 7/18/2011 6:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Time.... It takes time. As they say, time heals all wounds. The best thing that you can do is get out there again. I don't mean to sound callous. But there could be many break ups in your life, or you could next time meet "the one'. It is hard to say. I had a friend that told me, "you get use to seeing them with somebody else afterwards". She had so many boyfriends. I was floored. But some women do. I had a lot of boyfriends until I turned 18 and I was with that guy for 23 years until he died of cancer in 2000. Now I have a husband that I have been with for ten years. So I guess what I am trying to say is don't be surprised if this isn't your first break up. You will meet another guy. And you will fall in love again. I know it doesn't feel that way right now. You probably feel like a sinking ship going into the abyss. But hang on. You aren't going to drown. You are going to come back strong. Do you have friends that you can hang out with to get your mind off of the break up? Am I moving too fast for you? You need to get out there and have some fun. Give it a try. Maybe go to a movie with a girlfriend. Or something like that. It would be fun. Try to cheer up. I know it isn't easy, but you got to live.

Hugs, Karen
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Gingy99
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   Posted 7/18/2011 7:19 PM (GMT -6)   
This is not at all my first break up, it's like the seventh. But only two of them destroyed my heart, I only dated the other ones trying to feel something, I guess. But I got rid of them after finding no emotions except more pain and dissapointment. I look like a jerk, because I leave them all heartbroken and bitter. I dont mean to sound cruel, Im not playing with there emotions on purpose, just to play games. I would never do that. :( my emotions are so out of control, it's like I'm bipolar or something. My moods shift like the weather. I just dont know what else to do. I'm tired of hearing the same thing from everyone, nothing is working.

getting by
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   Posted 7/18/2011 7:29 PM (GMT -6)   
Maybe you are bipolar. Do you see a counselor? They really do help. And it might help you get through this last breakup. You might have depression and that might be why you can't get over this. Depression causes us to hang on to things longer than we should. And hanging on makes the depression worse. So it is one bad cycle. I really think that you should talk to somebody before this gets worse. I don't know what other advice you have gotten. You said you hear the same thing from everyone. But I do know when we have depression, we have to be proactive and seek help. Other people don't have the answers, we have to find them for ourselves though counseling. I wish for you the best.

Hugs, Karen
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Gingy99
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   Posted 7/18/2011 7:53 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks, I have looked up bipolar and several other things, I have talked to several people about and I know that's not what I have. My moods are that of someone with bipolar but they are not as extreme and the lows and highs only last a few days, shifting from one to the other throughout the days, out of the blue I am depressed and have no idea why, then three hours later, after laying around doing nothing, then I just pop up deciding to go on a two mile run in the summer heat or do something reckless. What on earth is that called? I know I have a more emotional personality than most, not sure what is is though, but I'm leaning on God to try and take away my depression and calm my racing emotions. Although it does feel like I will never get over this, even when I think I have found the light at the end of the tunnel I hit a brick wall. One step forward, two steps back.

getting by
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   Posted 7/18/2011 8:57 PM (GMT -6)   
If you are having the highs and lows as you described, you are most likely bipolar. There are different types and levels. Doing wreckless things is another sign. Kind of like thrill seeking. How far can I get away with... But only a doctor would know for sure. Do be careful though. Running in extreme heat isn't good for you at all. You can dehydrate and that is bad news. So be careful of what you are doing.

I hope that you feel better soon. I know the feeling of one step forward and two back. But it does get better. Hang in there, relax, and be patient.

Hugs, Karen
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