What is the point in my life??!!!

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   Posted 7/20/2011 12:31 PM (GMT -6)   
I am having a really bad day today,
I have been told I cannot have children.
It's the one thing I have always wanted, I feel like I have really let my husband down cry

I really don't know why my life is worth living, I can't do alot due to my fibro, I don't have many friends because I can't go out much & my depression sometimes takes over me, Now I can't have the one thing I thought I might have been good at cry

I'm really worried my husband will leave me cuz I can't give him what he wants.

I really want to do something, but the thing that puts me off, is knowing my husband will find me.

I hope I haven't broken any rules by writing this, I just needed to get it out.

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   Posted 7/20/2011 12:57 PM (GMT -6)   
Just a word of encouragement, Amz24. Let me first say that, you have everything to live for, and you are valuable in this life. I understand how you feel because my spouse and I lost a baby after our first year of marriage, she felt the same as you did, she thought as you have right now. But I just leaned in closer to her to let her know that she has not failed me, nor failed at life. I just want to encourage you to keep your head up, yes --this is a difficult point, but please know that there are wonderful people here who care and are concerned, and this is a great place to just air out whatever you'd like without being judged.

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   Posted 7/20/2011 12:58 PM (GMT -6)   
I am sure that your husband wont leave you. There are other ways, you could adopt. There are many children that need good homes. You could get somebody else to be a (I am probably not spelling it right) serogate mother. But I like the thought of adoption I guess because I was adopted. You are a special person in your own right. There are many purposes for your life. Don't let this get you down. It will all work out for the best hon. And don't think your hubby will leave, because he loves you for you.

Hugs, Karen
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It's Genetic
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   Posted 7/20/2011 1:02 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello, Amz24, none of us was ever put here for no reason; believe that.

If you've had only one physician who told you that you can't have children, get a second opinion, at least. If it turns out that it's best for you not to have children, there is always the adoption route which is possible for you and your husband to pursue. There are other routes,
as well, such as a surrogate mother to carry your child for you and your husband until his/her birth. You may wish to pursue one or more
of those avenues.

Try to get counseling for the depression. It will stabilize you and give
you the time you need to investigate having children by another route if the second physician says it's dangerous for you or that you can't
have children.

At your young age, there's no real reason for you and your husband not to have a child if you wish. It's just a matter of investigating.
Don't give up--never give up, my husband always said. It was good
advice; I followed it and hope you will.

Take care of yourself and then get to work on plans for motherhood, one way or the other! You are here definitely for a purpose that you
may not know about right now, but will in time learn.

It's Genetic

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   Posted 7/21/2011 4:28 AM (GMT -6)   
I understand how you feel and I am so sorry for your devastating news. I agree with the others though...there are many options available if being parents is something you both really want. As long as you have open communication with your husband about your feelings and try to have a positive attitude you will get though this just fine. Maybe you can turn this bad news into absolute joy for a child who desperately needs a home. Families are made in all different ways and as long as you have love you have a happy home and be great parents.

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   Posted 7/21/2011 12:32 PM (GMT -6)   
I would just like to point out Karen's comment, that adopting would maybe be a good idea. You most definitely haven't failed anyone and I think adopting is an amazing thing to do and could be quite a big rewarding achievement.
I personally want to adopt myself once I am ready to settle down, I feel that there are children out there that really need homes.
Life is hard enough to deal with and to give a gift like that to a child that really needs it may reduce the chances of them growing up with depression or other serious developmental problems.

Anyways, I hope you start feeling better soon. Just take each day as it comes and try stay positive, remember you're not a failure and you are most welcome to come here and vent.

Get Well,

Diagnosis - Ankylosing Spondilitis and (still to come, ill find something :P)
Meds - Celebrex 200mg Once daily - Contains Celecoxib.

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