Have you asked for their help? Try not to use the word "should" in your statement of thinking. I think the word would, and make it a question. Would or could you possibly help me out when I have surgery. What kind of surgery are you having and what kind of help are you going to need? Know that they aren't obligated just because they are your relatives. But it would be a nice jesture if they could possibly help you. They do have other things going on in their lives and maybe they don't have time. But if I were you, I would just ask. If you haven't already.
I hope that your surgery goes well.
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression, allergies