What about counseling again? Would that help you? One thing you need to learn as never assume what the other person is doing if you don't know for sure. He could of very well been playing mind games with you or he could just be inconsiderate.
And when these smaller issues happen, try to put them behind you. Try not to dwell on them, that makes us stew. And then we get more mad.
It sounds like the two of you lack communication. And there is a lot of assuming going on when that happens, Nobody is sure what the other person is thinking or doing.
I would try counseling again and see how that goes. Do you do things with your friends, or do you just mainly hang out with him when you aren't working? It is good to have a life outside of the relationship. Then you aren't always counting on him.
Let us know how things are going.
Keep us posted.
PS liviing with an alcoholic is hard, and will be as long as he doesn't get treatment. I am sorry about that. Does he get mean when he drinks? I sure hope not.
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