To deal with depression is getting really difficult

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   Posted 8/2/2011 6:59 AM (GMT -6)   
cry  Hi, my loved one is undergoing major depression and its just killing me. He feels like ending his life all the time and his inner voice takes over him when i am not looking.
Medication - on last 45 days result defenatly calmer but the will to die is getting stronger. The doctors are best doctors in the country and are trying to help. But outcome is really really slow. The minute he hears he is getting better, he become worse.
I hear him all the time. Am i missing on something......
WHAT DO I DO, i fear before its too late. I saw the threads an in search of some answers i post this thread.
Warm Regards

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   Posted 8/2/2011 7:09 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome Jaiman,

As a partner of someone that suffers with depression, it is just so hard. You want to help them, make them better, take away there suffering, but you can't. It is very very difficult to live with when the partner isn't well.

Have you been given education material as well as him getting treatment? If not, seek some support out for you, sounds like your partner is getting some support and treatment, however this is happening in your life too.

I wish you strength in this time, good luck with gaining some support for yourself, and welcome to the board, hope others are able to give some other advice for you soon.

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   Posted 8/2/2011 7:10 AM (GMT -6)   
It can take the meds six to eight weeks to reach their full effect. So try to be patient. Is he going to counseling? I would highly advise that. I truly hope that this situation works out for you. Keep posting and let us know how things are going.

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   Posted 8/2/2011 8:31 AM (GMT -6)   
So often Jaiman, people in depression try to self-medicate themselves by using certain foods which are very detrimental to their overall feeling tone. They need to stop using anything containing caffeine or alcohol; both make the illness worse.

See if you can get him to change his diet right away so that he eats more green vegetables and salads, eats less meat, drinks water consistently and avoids white flour products. He should use whole wheat products and avoid use of milk products--cheese, ice cream, butter, sour cream, milk, cream cheese, etc. These foods are very acidic in reaction during digestion and just are not good for adults. It takes about one week of diet control to begin improvement in feeling tone. By the end of two weeks he should feel much better. Caffeine or alcohol abandonment may take longer to relieve depression symptoms, but he will get better without them in his diet. Aspirin may help somewhat.

Making sure that he takes prescribed medications is important and that he gets his rest. These things I have mentioned are things I was told to do as part of the regimen to control depression.

I hope he feels better soon.

Take care.

It's Genetic

Post Edited (It's Genetic) : 8/2/2011 8:46:20 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 8/3/2011 3:34 AM (GMT -6)   
Dear All,

Thank you so much for the support.

Well the point is he is:
1. taking good healthy diet
2. Doesnot smoke or drink
3. Has started participating in activities and joined a GYM

So lifestyle is getting better. Med's have been taken regularly for the last 2 months (since he was detected being in depression).

He is just not able to deal with:
1. His inner voice who misleads him and turns him against every one (even me sometimes)
2. Feels that he has lost the meaning of his life - nothing to look fwd to.

I just wnt to know..... is this how it is supposed to be. And when does he strat feeling a little better.

Warm Regards
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