Thank you for a very thoughtful and meaningful reply. I am sure you understand the anger and rage I am feeling right now. My son was with this girl for 4 yrs and I saw things that were triggers to her behavior. As you know we have to let our children lead their own lives so I never said anything and what good would it have done.
I am going to have to work hard at being able to release my anger but I am trying. I guess this is all so new and I thought this person was out of our lives for good. To think that she would move 4 blocks away from my son seems like she had some kind of a plan.
I have been good with him, listened and gave advice only when asked. I know he is trying too hard to find someone. He has dated a lot of girls this past year but not found a connection. I tell him not to be discouraged, that the he will know when the right one comes along but he is very impatient. He is still young enough, 32, and if he wouldn't be so needy he might have more success. I think because his former fiance is getting married that he too feels he should have found someone by now. I remind him that I married at 22, was married for 15 unhappy years and am still single. I just never found anyone and I have been OK with it all these years.
I really admire the way you were able to handle a very difficult situation. I am glad for the advice you have shared with me and I too am going to work hard at letting the anger go. I had actually recovered from the upheaval she caused in our lives the first time only to have her appear again. But I will not let this get me down the way it did before. My son comes first and I am glad I have such a good relationship with him.
I truly wish you the best in regards to your son. I am sorry for the situation that got him where he is but you sound like you will be ready to support and care for him when he returns to you.
Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. I am here for you if you need someone to talk to or share a thought with.