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Posted 3/23/2005 7:04 PM (GMT -7)
Ive been really depressed the last week and i dont know what to do.  noone listens to me so i thought that id post here and maybe somebody would.  I know this isnt the dating online advice center, but i really need some help before i do something stupid.  Well, anyways, my girlfriend and i started a break exactly a week from today and i think im going to die like seriously.  She just wants some alone time for now and for some reason i just cant give it to her.  Im so obsessed with her and its probably driving her insane and im so sorry for her.  its just so hard to see somebody i love not want me anymore and i donno what to do.  Ive tried everything and im going insane.  Is there something wrong with me.  I just want everything to be better again and i dont know what to do.  She tells me that she cant garentee that everything will be better.  I really love this girl like SO much more then anything and i kno she needs the space and i love her so im giving it to her, im just braking down and i need someone to let it all out on cuz i dont really have anyone that will actually listen to me and care.  I kno my girlfriend would but shes already goin through enough with her own stuff and ive already bugged her enough with my problems.  Does anyone kno what i should do before i do something stupid?  Im always so anti-hurting self and it scares me that im actually thinking of doin it sometimes.  god i love her so much
Posted 3/24/2005 10:53 AM (GMT -7)
not sure if this helps, but im on a break(for the past 2 weeks) at the moment from my boyfriend due to issues(weve been together 7 years and have 2 kids) at the moment he is being quite patient with me which seems to be helping me. i feel i need the space or i would just flip out at him which really i didnt want to do, so now he isnt here its less stress. it doesnt mean our relashionship is broken up forever.
does your girlfriend give you any idea why she wants space.

GIjo
Posted 3/24/2005 11:13 AM (GMT -7)
Everyone wants space sometimes, it's natural. You say that she's going through alot at the moment, so she probably just wants time to think.
Tell her that you understand and that you are there for her when she needs to talk. If you love her you'll give her the space and time she needs.
Everything will be fine, give her a chance. Don't do anything stupid, you never know what the future holds.

I hope you get through this.

:-)
Posted 3/26/2005 4:31 AM (GMT -7)
Anyone who knows anything about me probably knows that I'm not exactly the one to give advice on relationships but I will put my 2 cents in. First off I agree with Charlie. If you love her then you will give her the time and space she needs. Sometimes you have to let something go just to see if it will come back. In all honesty it sounds like you need some time away too. You said yourself you are obsessed with her and that you feel like you're going to die being w/out her. Well for one, that puts a lot of pressure on not only the relationship but on her, and you too for that matter. A relationship under that much pressure is a lot easier to break. Take the time and space that she's needing and use it to your advantage. The best thing you can do for your relationship with her is to learn not to solely depend on her. I hope that I've been of atleast a little help. Good luck babe.
Posted 3/27/2005 7:47 AM (GMT -7)
Kyle,

Please contact me at my email address

lizabuczek@hotmail.com

I would like to help you through this before things get to an extreme that you cant handle

Liza

Hug Your Children Everyday, and Tell Them That You Love Them

In Memory of My Son:

Michael Joesph Palazzolo

April 19, 1985 - Feburary 24, 2005

 

Posted 3/28/2005 2:42 PM (GMT -7)
It is difficult to give the space that others need. I found this out too late. I also discovered that the reason I had such difficulty is because of my own insecurities and the need to have constant contact to reassure myself that she was still there. I hope you find some peace within yourself in dealing with the many emotions you are feeling.
 

We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.

 

Randy


Posted 4/3/2005 12:37 PM (GMT -7)
i was the girl on the other end at one point in time. give her space. if u push too hard you will lose her completely
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