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sweetgal22491
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   Posted 8/7/2011 11:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Things have gotten better with the boyfriend And we have talked a lot out. I still can't get over the fact that he goes out with out me sometimes. Also a friend of his I don't like is the one he is going out with. He doesn't see why it is such a big deal for. Me to let him to go but it is. I don't trust his friend and don't have enough trust in my boyfriend to always trust what he's saying. In a way I feel like he's talking to other girls and meeting up with them but at the same time I don't know so I don't say anything. We went to the bar last night for his friends birthday and he gave him the keys to his car to get head from some girl. Not ok. He's got a girlfriend pregnant at home that's ready to pop. Reason I hate this guy. So I'm dealing with it last night and while my friend and me and his friend I don't like r talking my boyfriend disappears for a "walk". Doesn't tell anyone where he's going just goes. And is texting all night but everyone he really texts was with us last night. So I don't know. Am I just freaking out over nothing or what? Do I just have tovgetover this?

CassandraLee
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   Posted 8/7/2011 11:46 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Sweetgal. For once my reply is going to be short and simple. I am a HUGE believer when it comes to my gut feelings. It's like every part of my body knows that something isn't right except for my brain (which should be logical). The times that I have gotten myself into trouble have ALWAYS been when I have ignored my Gut Feelings.

I think you know already what your answer is deep down inside. I think you need to respect and trust yourself and follow it. And yes, in case you are wondering my gut feeling is telling me that you are a special person that deserves better and much more.

With kind regards,
Cass

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 8/8/2011 12:32 AM (GMT -6)   
agree with cass. follow your instincts. and yes you deserve much better, jamie.

much compassion to you.
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   Posted 8/8/2011 9:42 AM (GMT -6)   
I agree with the above posts. I think what your boyfriend's friend did was totally unacceptable. For lack of a better word. I wouldn't put up with it. But I am just hoping that your bf ignores him and doesn't do it.

Good luck with this situation. It is concerning to say the least.

Hugs, Karen
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sweetgal22491
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   Posted 8/13/2011 5:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks guys it means a lot. Lately my feelings dont matter. I do a lot I. Regards to paying bills and taking care of everything so he doesn't have to. I never help but I never say anything. Lately I've just been thinking about getting out. Moving. Maybe still dating but not being here. Try and make him see what he has here. But I also feel like it might not work. I'm not sure on what to do but when I tell him how I feel and that his words hurt me he's says I don't see that or your wrong. Never an I'm sorry or how can I fix it..n that is what's hurting me the most lately

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   Posted 8/13/2011 8:50 PM (GMT -6)   
If you don['t tell him. he will never know. So how can he please you if he doesn't know what it is that you want>+?

Good luck,

Hugs, Karen
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sweetgal22491
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   Posted 8/14/2011 1:23 PM (GMT -6)   
I tell him but it's in one ear and out the other. I'm tired of repeating myself and never getting help with anything

getting by
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   Posted 8/14/2011 2:55 PM (GMT -6)   
Wont he sit down and talk to you? I wonder if some counseling is in order. Like marriage counseling. To bring down that wall between you two. It must be so frustrating when he doesn't listen to you. Are you making yourself really clear as to how serious you are with this matter? It sounds like you are doing the best that you can. If he wont go to counseling, maybe you should anyway. They can teach you how to handle the situation. I think it would be worth the try.

Take care, Keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
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