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   Posted 8/9/2011 6:36 PM (GMT -6)   
I don't even know where to begin but here it goes.

Been in this relationship for 5years. && it went from the best thing to the worst thing. I thought I had a winner but he proves me wrong evryday we have a child together && its like the word faithful don't even exist anymre sumdays I wonder if us being together from the beginning was mistake now I knw evry relationship has its dark times. But evry***kin Day && Night. I knw the it gotta b bettah than this

The other night I saw him flirting with females at his job gettin drunk with them touchin && doin evrything yu shudnt do. I press him about it he looks me in my face && lies. I'm suppose to b his wife. && I'm treated like the side *****. His friends also help him cheat on me. Like they brainwash him into thinkin he doesn't need to b tied down.. && I'm so ***ked up in my head because I cannot believe this is happening. He had sex wit possibly 6females through out our entire relationship && to this day claim he has always ben faithful after I done seen the proof witnessed it first hand. && have been told.

I remember when trust was the main factor now I juss sit back look at my daughter && realize she has been the best thing in this relationshipp... && now his job has become his life he always have time for them I'm always left in the house alone. I guess those females brainwashed him too now he "hooked" && probably in love smhh..

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   Posted 8/9/2011 7:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Different Layers. Welcome to HealingWell. I am so glad you found us. From what you have written it sounds like you need a lot of support right now.

I don't know what your financial position is, or if you feel strong enough emotionally, but it sounds like it is time for either you and your child to leave or him to leave. You deserve much better than to be treated like this. I don't know how old your child is, but I have children and they are so much more perceptive than I give them credit for. If you are hurting and things aren't right, your child will eventually pick up on that and that isn't good.

Do you have family to turn to for help? Do you have a church minister or somewhere you could go for counseling? For the sake of you and your child it sounds like you need to get some help to help yourself feel better.

Keep posting and we'll be here for you. This is a very supporting and caring community.


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   Posted 8/9/2011 7:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Heya DifferentLayers,

Welcome to the Forums.

Sorry to hear that the 1 person you chose to spend the rest of your life with is cheating on you.
I like to think sometimes people just need a nudge in the right direction, but this relationship sounds like it's in an awful mess and once someone cheats the relationship often becomes flawed.
In some cases it can work, a close friend of mine moved state because his wife was cheating on him, this solved their problems and they live together happily like they did before.
Not saying you should be doing this, but just sometimes things can work out. But at this stage, I would start looking out for yourself, I'm not sure what you have been thinking but do you feel it's time to move on?
If you still love him then maybe need to talk to him with a third party person, perhaps a family counselor but this is only if you want it to work.

I think you need to make a decision that is going to revolve around you now, when things like this happen people lose their self esteems which leads to depression.

Keep us posted on what you decide to do and hope everything works out for you.

All the best

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   Posted 8/9/2011 7:34 PM (GMT -6)   
If you don't believe that he is being faithful, maybe you should rethink this relationship through. Maybe it is time to find a man that is faithful and loves you and treats you right. I am sorry for what you are going through. It is no wonder you are depressed.

Hugs, Karen
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