Posted 8/12/2011 12:09 PM (GMT -7)
Sorry your husband is so stressed. I know all about the stress of job hunting, I am always between jobs it seems. The bottom line, for me, is never to get my hopes up. When I get excited and start feeling like something is going to happen and it doesn't, I feel very let-down and low. I'd rather assume I didn't get the job and when they call, I feel very good. It's pointless to feel like it's "him" that is the reason for not getting the job, it's not him, it's not me, it's the economy. No reason to feel bad about yourself when there is extremely stiff competition and the majority of positions have a pile of resumes taller than the desk. You're a good candidate if you got a call. You're great if you got a 2nd interview. Getting the job often comes down to a bit of politics, who knows who, who has a family to support, who is what age, who is seen as "stable", who is healthy, who has less people to insure... They like to hire "Low risk" people, people who won't turn over. People with kids tend to stay put, people like me, we move around, we aren't ideal candidates. I'd be willing to bet that half the help wanted ads are for jobs that never hire. I've had managgers I've interviewed with call me and say they decided not to hire for the position. Nice of them to waste my time and get my hopes up, isn't it? Try not to take the job hunt too seriously, it could frustrate anyone, especially in this economy.
It sounds like you're a very understanding, compassionate companion and that's the most wonderful thing to have in your life. Something will come up, I don't think you should let stress stop him from finding a job that challenges him. There are medications he can take to deal with stress. My fiance is very stressed about work but you know what? even if he has a job with no stress, he is stressed. He is an uptight person. He has been seeing someone and it's helping but I don't think anythiing will change the nature of the beast. At least I am happy it is tamed to some extent.
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