When we get pregnant, we have no choice of the child we are about to give birth to. If God allows, every baby that is born, comes with all their equipment needed to sustain their life. The babies do not get a book of instructions and no assembly is required.
A child deserves total love and affection. They deserve a fair shake in life. They deserve more and better than their parents had. They deserve to be raised by a loving and caring family. Whether they be the first born or last born, they still deserve the same attention as the others. Sometimes in life, we have to face forks in the road and are forced to chose the right one to take. If we take the wrong one, we can go back and take the other. That is a choice. How your parents raise you and give you the values in life that will predict your ability to be a productive adult is also a choice. On the other hand, some parents do the very best they can in raising their children with all the right values, and then they are among the wrong crowds at school in their teen years and they are forced to "go toe to toe with their pier pressure". Even though, if we are persistent and delve into their children and their valuse of life, they have a fighting chance. My heart breaks for the kids that have been injured in being innocent. We have had kids shot to death and we have had teachers shot to death. We never know if we will retun home when we leave in the AM. We have to let our children know that they are special and that they are loved. We need to be involved with all their activities.
I know this is hard, but those parents who are single and have to work and reise their children feel abandoned. My heart also goes out for the patent. Single parents have it very hard. Even so, the kids still need that attention. What are they to do? Who has the answer? If the kids don't have both parents, whether they be married or divorced, the kids don't have a fighting chance.
I had my 34 yr old daughter tell me for the first time the other day that she resented the fact that her dad and I divorced. She never told me this. She was 10 when we divorced. She says she has taken this up with her dad and she thought it was time I knew it. She said we "plucked" all the life out of her. She was angry because we pulled her out of the church as well. In 24 years, she never told me these things. She told me because she is a mother of 2, Megan is 5 and Luke is 18 months. She belongs to a church and prays with her kids daily. She reads her bible as does her husband. I felt so small when I hung up the phone. She was sweet and kind and told me in a loving way. She has grown to be a wonderful wife, mother and an example for her children. I am proud. She did tell me that she is a lot like I was. Independent and able to do things that not even her husband can do. She said she got that from me. I was touched.
The moral of this post is being today is Good Friday for those that believe, the Lord died for our sins so we could have ever lasting life. If we refuse that life, we can raise ur kids but how they grow up will be totally up to us.
God bless those that believe
Hugs
"Lefty" 
There is no such word as can't. Can't simply means wouln't. Grab as much as life as you can. Future is a long way away for those who don't believe. Don't build a foundation of life on sand. It will take it away with the tide. Love a little more, be unkind a lot less.