Hey everyone!

Hey cincychic, your not alone there is lots of people here like you. i get called selfish all the time as well, not just bymyself but my family members. for me also the persuit of happyness seems sometimes not worth it because its always "temporary happyness" as well. but i try to live everyday by itself and not link all days toghether. sometimes keeping things simple and taking it step by step helps. try not to worry to much about tomorerow. do the job your supposed to do today or do the things you'd like to do today and let tomorerow for tomorerow and try and let go of your pain by keeping your mind buesy doing things.

For instance to keep ur mind buesy, either reading a book or talking to someone, walk or do anything you like just as long as its not something abusive like drinking or addictive things. cooking something special for your loved one perhaps? anything you enjoy doing.

Bringing people up when they r down is primary reason why most of us are here for each other, helping others and such is a great thing to do and gives us a satisfactory feeling :) we are all here for each other.

and good luck to u !

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                                                     To be or not to Be

Hey cincychic,

Welcome. I too was depressed for years. I have a chronic illness and never wanted to face the emotional realities associated with it and so I ran from all feelings. This only drove me deeper into depression. Admitting that you need help is a great first step. I needed to get professional help to come to terms with the pain and where it was coming from. The root cause is still there, but I am slowling learning the tools necessary to help me through the pain. Good luck and hope you find the friendship and support here that I have.

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We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.