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TOL34
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   Posted 8/29/2011 12:32 AM (GMT -6)   
I feel like im drowning in a sea of nothing. Everytime I take a step forward, I go 20 steps backwards.  I have worked hard all my life tried to be the best mom and wife I can be and it seems like nothing good ever happens for me.  I lost, my job, got evicted and now my husband has taken my kids away.  I have spent my whole adult life taking care oh him and my kids, i feel so lost and alone and am drowning.  I feel like I should have been a bad person or something.  I do not do drugs, rarely drink, don't steal or beat my kids or husband, but yet I am the one that gets dumped on.  I no do not have my kids, the one thing that has kept me sane and from plunging over the edge and now they are gone.  What do I have to live for?????? I feel like nothing, I am empty and hollow.  Nothing I ever do is good enough and nothing I ever do makes any sense.  I trusted them and they took from me.  I am to trusting and to giving and look where it has gotten me.  Nowhere with nothing.  I really don't understand anymore.

getting by
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   Posted 8/29/2011 7:51 AM (GMT -6)   
What was his grounds of getting custody of the children? Why did they leave you behind? Do you have a place to stay? How are you getting by? Are you working somewhere now? How are you going to provide for yourself? How did you lose your job?

Sorry for all the questions, I am just trying to fill in the blanks.

Welcome to the forum.

Hugs, Karen
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TOL34
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   Posted 9/1/2011 6:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Today was a great day..... I filed for a restraining order and with the restraining order came a temporary custody order for me to get the kids.  I am now just waiting on him to be served and I get my boys back....  If he would have just been smart and tried to be an adult and came to me, now he just hurt the kids and himself all the more.  Now he has supervised visitation with the kids to insure he does not run with them again.  As for the questions, I have to file for divorce to get permanent custody of them.  For me, I have a job, but it is commission based and I have to get over this hurdle and I will make lots and lots of money.  He just took them while they were visiting his mom, she handed them over to him.   I put in my notice to take another job, that job fell through, they terminated me before my notice was complete.  That is how I lost my job.  I have never hurt my kids and have always been a provider, I made really good money at all of my jobs and had good positions, so I have an awesome resume, so I know I can support myself and my children....  I was able to get my rent paid and so I am staying in the same place I have lived for the last three years.  Things are going to get better I just know they will....

getting by
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   Posted 9/1/2011 7:53 PM (GMT -6)   
I am so happy for you. And I am happy that you have a positive outlook. It really helps to cope when you are thinking positive. So keep up the good work. And it really is work.

I hope that you keep us posted on how things go. Take care. Have a good night.

Hugs, Karen
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Jackie_0mg
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   Posted 9/3/2011 3:20 PM (GMT -6)   
IT always gets better just rember you cant allpw negative things to win you have controll over your life never give up or go over the edge because of nothing you have your goals to live for :)

getting by
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   Posted 9/3/2011 4:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Jackie,

Welcome to the depression forum. I noticed you posted a couple of times, so I thought I would welcome you to the forum.

Take care, Keep posting. Feel free to start a thread about yourself if you would like. And what you are going through with your depression.

Hugs, Karen
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TOL34
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Date Joined Aug 2011
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   Posted 9/3/2011 5:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for all the positive thoughts. Waitng for the other shoe to drop now. Man, people sure know how to hurt others. Not only is my exhusband abusive, but controlling and has to have the upper hand no matter what. Our vehicles and our phones were in his moms name, now they are taking my car and turned off my and my sons phone to make things worse for us. I don't know what else they can do to me. I am sure they have a couple more tricks up their sleeves. Not having a phone will inable me to know when to go to court when he contests the restraining order, not having a car will not get me there. This is just one mess after another. When will it all end. It should be about the us and the kids are being put in the middle of things. I just wish we could work this out between the two of us and his mom would stay the heck out of our lives so we could solve this like adults, but no, he can't do anything alone, has to have mommy do it for him. Man will it ever end? I feel like a failure as it is and they are making me feel even worse.
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