Hello to everyone, I'm new to this group. I have never really sought out advice or help in regards to my own feelings, so here goes.
I knew years ago the my husband probably suffered depression, and it reared it's ugly head without a doubt about
5-6 years ago. I recognized the signs thankfully, and didn't put his bags at the curb, but instead went with him to Dr's appointment for support and encouragement. He was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and I have been supporting, understanding and, encouraging all these years. Even when he was mean and nasty to the kids and I. I'm not looking for a pat on the back, I just did what I thought was my responsibility. I see such few glimmers of the man he used to be. I understand that his flight response is huge in him, and he has done nothing but run from things. This includes our hobby as a family. It involves being in a group, and about
5 years ago he had a disagreement with someone (not as huge as he thought), and gave it all up. Made the decision for all of us (though he says go without him), I don't think that's right. So we all gave it up. Then he wanted to join another group (same hobby), didn't last long there. Then in the spring he decided to contact out original group and ask if we could come back. He said that he now realized what he did to us by making that decision. We have been so happy being back. Come home today, and he has had a disagreement with someone from the group, and is quitting AGAIN. He said what ever you and the kids want to do, I will be supportive. What this really means is, if you go without me, I'll be miserable and derogatory.
I'm so sorry this is long winded, I never talk to anyone about
what is going on or how I feel. I don't feel that I can be supportive any longer. He runs from everything. I try to make things smooth and non upsetting for him. I finally realize that I am not appreciated and taken for granted far too often. Am I giving up too? Should I stay and be supportive still? I would love to hear from you.