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worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/7/2011 4:30 PM (GMT -6)   
work for the last three weeks have been so good and non stressful, despite losing some valuable employees, but now we have this new freshly out of training covering manager who is going to be a district covering us and i tell you she is worse than my general manager or the comanager that was giving me problems. want to know how? ill tell you how so bear with the story.
 
first off i got up and took my kid to school, called around for product, went and got product(off the clock mind you), came home got ready for work and then went to work. i get there a few minutes early and they started talking to me so i didnt get any food so when i clocked in i decided to eat a small sandwich so that i can take my ADD meds, if i dont eat before taking them they make me really sick. i ring in my sandwich and she starts going off on me about how i need to eat before coming to work at home or elsewhere that it is not being a good role model and looks bad. i explain to her i didnt have any food at home as i havent been to the store yet and i didnt have money to go to fast food place to get breakfast and how i had to go get product also and that i need to eat a something to take my meds and she said that is not her issue. i told her i normally dont eat when i first come in at ten but i had no choice. now dont get me wrong i do understand her point but she went about it the wrong way, she should have taken me to the office and also should have understood when i explained to her. so then when working the employees didnt do what she wanted fast enough i guess and so she started talking down to them which made them upset and they started talking to each other in their language and very rudely she says to them you know i understand your language dont you. so now our team members are upset and basically didnt care about our service times.  then she is talking about food cost and basically says we need to focus on t hat and not our voids and which i stated nicely that we need to focus on all of the points as that is what our general manager wants. she doesnt want to listen to anyone. while working  i made a comment about getting some tylenol from my car when i got to eat lunch and my assistant, who btw did say something about how she talked to us, said that if i got to eat lunch because she said she believes to eat people need to be on break. well i told him if i dont get to eat lunch than i am going to walk out and go home. so i did get to eat lunch and after she left he asked me to bite my tongue that we only have 30 days to deal with her and that he thought he was going to have to seperate us today. i told him i would but im not going to let her treat me like crap either. so i need to say "Lord give me the serenity and strength to bite my tongue and not say how i feel for the next 30 days" although if she somehow gets stuck at our store longer or permanantly i will be putting my two weeks notice in. i cant deal with this again.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

getting by
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   Posted 9/7/2011 4:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi worriegirl,

It seems like she is a sour grape. Just don't let her moods effect your day and ruin it. Try to keep the moral up while she is there. I hope that she is only there for the 30 days. I know how it is to have to work with somebody like that. It makes everything seem bad. But good vibes can overcome bad vibes. If you know what I mean. She has got a bad way about her. But the happiness of the employees can over come that. It isn't easy, but there are more of you than her. I hope you can tolerate her. I understand that isn't easy. When your job is miserable it is hard not to bring it home. But your day is over and it is another one under your belt. Try to continue to bite your tongue. If you can. Peeople like that are hard to tolerate.

I hope that your day is better now.

Hugs, Karen
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worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/7/2011 4:53 PM (GMT -6)   
thank you karen and yes it is. worse is i have to work with her alone tomorrow with no other manager there to moderate it. im going to try and bite my tongue but im also not going to let her treat me like crap either. i appreciate your advice and will probably post more often now.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

getting by
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   Posted 9/7/2011 5:27 PM (GMT -6)   
yea, don't let her treat you badly. You don't deserve that. I have been through it and know how it feels. Especially to be talked down to. It doesn't feel good at all.

I hope that you are feeling better,

Hugs, Karen
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theHTreturns...
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   Posted 9/8/2011 5:09 AM (GMT -6)   
sending you much healing, loving compassion and strength my friend, jamie
EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE PERSONALITY DISORDER,

RAPID CYCLING BI-POLAR DISORDER

REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

awty
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   Posted 9/8/2011 8:23 AM (GMT -6)   
Let us know how your day goes worried girl. Hope it is just a one off bad day, but often people show thier true colours upfront.

It's Genetic
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   Posted 9/8/2011 11:40 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello, Worried Girl, I am proud of you for standing up for yourself and trying to offer valid reasons for why things happened the way they did in the morning.

In reality, Worried Girl, most corporations require their young, aspiring executives to take courses in leadership for personnel. And that's what it means: LEADER ship: to lead the way, to show how, and to do it in a way that people will follow and appreciate the guidance.

This woman has obviously had none of that and was moved ahead in her job because she was probably a hard worker who worked well independently. She isn't a "people" person. Do you know what I mean? There's no real interest in what anyone else is saying, sadly, so your fellow worker who asked you to bite your lip for 30 days may be on the right track. If she's gone after thirty days, you have saved yourself a real struggle.

If she isn't, and you know that you won't lower your standards to meet her demands (and I don't blame you at all), you might be happier keeping your eye out for another job.

Once in a while someone who wants leadership that badly but has no
qualifications for it slips through the net; but, in general, most people who are real leaders are interested in the people who work with them, not for them--and there is a huge difference.

There are other avenues for you to follow if she continues to remain on the job and you want to keep the job you have. There are the executives in charge who will be glad to listen to you and talk to her if necessary to let her know where her authority stops.

You're such a valuable member here with thoughts that are relevant to the situations of many working people. I hope this eases your mind a bit. It isn't
you, Worried Girl; it's her lack of training in leadership.

Take care.

It's Genetic

Post Edited (It's Genetic) : 9/8/2011 11:45:49 AM (GMT-6)


worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/8/2011 4:09 PM (GMT -6)   
she came in today and was like "who did the plan im not doing sandwiches im doing ops" i was like ok whatever and not rudely just stating whatever as in whatever you want and she was like "are you giving me an attitude because you need  to know im in charge". uggg i dont know if i can bite my tongue for 30 days but if she is there longer than i may have to demand a transfer.

The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

It's Genetic
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   Posted 9/8/2011 4:28 PM (GMT -6)   
Try to be pleasant and don't fall into her "Attitude"; just smile, nod and
do your job. She can't help it, Worried Girl. She doesn't know how, you see. No training=no strong functional capacity.

You'll be fine with the support of the others.

Take care.

I.G.

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   Posted 9/9/2011 12:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Its too emotional in this forum and its nice everybody giving their advice and opinion. Enjoy yourself, do some exercise watch DVD for Exercise. Make your self motivated. Good luck!

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/9/2011 6:05 AM (GMT -6)   
i have decided that i am going to do my job and talk to her about how i feel. if she continues to be this way and if i catch her treating my employees like crap im going to annonymiously call speak out and complain about her. that is our program to call if we feel we are being harrassed or hostile work environment. its only 30 days and i need to do what is right for MY store. that was MY store before she got there and it is still MY store after she got there.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

getting by
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   Posted 9/9/2011 8:14 AM (GMT -6)   
Good way of thinking Worriedgirl. You can do this. I have faith in you. She is making it a hostile workplace and that isn't good. I hope you can tolerate her 30 days (and counting). Keep your chin up and stick to your principles.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen
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It's Genetic
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   Posted 9/9/2011 8:47 AM (GMT -6)   
Well, that was a turnaround, Worried Girl; hey, if it's your store, go for it! Take care doing so, though, and I hope all is well within a day or
two for you.

I.G.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/9/2011 4:11 PM (GMT -6)   
well the more i think about it the more i think that is my store and i cant let her get me down, if it was permanant than it would be a different story. i go into work and my assistant manager asks me what happened and i told him and he is going to watch her for the next couple days and if she doesnt calm down he is going to talk to our district manager and our general manager about her and see what he can do. if it keeps up and she still treats us like crap and nothing is done i will call speak out. i do have options and for once im not afraid to use them and my other managers support me so i feel better. i just needed to talk about it and you guys helped as right now im waiting for a therapist. i could sure use an opening to come up. im off on tuesday so i am going to try and see if i can get in with my old therapist for a bit.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

getting by
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   Posted 9/9/2011 4:45 PM (GMT -6)   
I am glad that you have management behind you and that they are going to be watching her. She will surely slip up and show her true colors. I am sorry you have to deal with her, but it sounds like you have good people on your side. I am glad. What kind of a store do you work at? I worked at a convenience store a couple of years ago and loved it. We sold gas too.

I hope that you are having a good day, have a great weekend.

Hugs, Karen
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worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/9/2011 10:59 PM (GMT -6)   
do you guys remember the comanager i was having problems with. well before he left we had made up and became sorta friends and when he transferred we stayed in touch. he happened to see a facebook status(mind you it was very bland with no details at all) it said "lord give me the strength to bite my tongue for the next 30 days and not say how i feel" well he asked what happened and i told him everything. he told my general manager who is working at another store and she called the district manager and she is extremely angry. she called but didnt let on she knew and i told her everything and she said if things are the same next week then to call and talk to our district and tell him. which shows how much our gm loves us. i feel better now. oh karen i work fast food.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

awty
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   Posted 9/10/2011 6:48 AM (GMT -6)   
That's fantastic Worriedgirl,

I am so pleased you have that support, and great the ex co-manager was able to help.

Very proud you have not let her walk all over you, and so pleased to see you found that strength, no-one should be treated badly for one day, let alone wait 30.

Well done you!!!!!!

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/20/2011 9:04 AM (GMT -6)   
well i think that my general manager and my district manager had a talk with her because she is being a lot nicer and even i think i have impressed her. last monday i went a got product without no one calling me and she was like wow amy you are on top of things as we forgot about potatoes. and yesterday i spent 3 hours cleaning out the walkin for an inspection and put away a huge truck and she says on saturday she is going to buy me dinner. so hopefully it stays this well
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

It's Genetic
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   Posted 9/20/2011 9:09 AM (GMT -6)   
That's really nice, Worried Girl. Things are looking up in that department, aren't they?

Administrative personnel very likely did talk to her; that may be the best thing that's happened for her in a while, and it really gives you some fresh air, too. Sometimes it's just lack of knowledge on the part of people who want to be authoritative. You did well to get assistance to get things corrected.

Take care,

I.G.

stillme
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   Posted 9/20/2011 11:13 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm glad things have turnd around for you.
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