Studying abrod in Europe, having a hard time coping?

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studyingabroad
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   Posted 9/14/2011 5:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello all,
 
I'm a 22 year old student studying abroad in Rome for this semester. I will be going home in December and I have been here almost a month already...I am extremely homesick, as it is my first time away from my family in my life. I commuted to college all four years I was there (this is my last semester) and this homesickness I am feeling is unbearable. I have been talking to program staff and they all advise me to stay. I really want to leave now, as I'm not even enjoying my time here because I'm just so sad all the time because I want to be back home. I really want some words of honest advice and encouragement. I don't feel like the people here with me care very much about homesickness in general. Everyone says it will go away in time but I don't feel that way. I feel like I'm alone in my situation because no one in my program commuted to their colleges; this is not their first time away from home. I am extremely attached to my family, and am now thinking that I made a mistake coming here. I'm seriously thinking about withdrawing from the program because I am just so sad. I know I would be extremely disappointed in myself if I was to withdraw since I would have wasted a semester and would have to go back to school in the Spring. I would really like words of encouragement, as I have no one I can really talk to here.
 
Thank you in advance :)

It's Genetic
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   Posted 9/14/2011 6:29 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello, studyingabroad, and welcome to the Depression Forum,

Please consider remaining for the final semester. Picture yourself in your cap and gown at graduation and having your degree in your hand.  You've worked hard for that and you deserve to get it after four years of dilgence.

Have you met anyone at the school whom you'd like to have dinner with or can visit in Rome as a friend during some of your free time?  You will learn probably more doing that than you will attending class!
What a wonderful opportunity to meet and know people from another
country! 
 
What about where you're living now? Is there anyone there who might like to have your friendship while you're in Rome? It could turn out to be one of the best life experiences you'll ever have if you give yourself the opportunity to know that everyone back home will be ever so eager to know about Rome and your life there. Try as best you can to have some extra curricular activity to bring down the level of depression.

If you need medication to help with the depression, please see a doctor there and take what he recommends for anxiety, which could be part of what you're experiencing as a new visitor to Rome.

Take one day at a time for the moment. Gradually, the homesickness will wither away and chances are you will be sad to leave in December.
That's going to be a beautiful season in Italy. Oh, and the food is
probably great there, too!

Keep in touch with people back home if it isn't too painful. Ask them
to help keep your spirits up as you go through the coming weeks.

Take care and keep posting as you wish. Support from others here
on the forum will be arriving soon, I think.

It's Genetic

Post Edited (It's Genetic) : 9/14/2011 6:36:01 AM (GMT-6)


Jim1969
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   Posted 9/14/2011 8:41 AM (GMT -6)   
Being home sick is most understandable, especially considering this is your first time away from your family and also that you are in a different country and I imagine many things are quite different than what you are used to.

My best advice to you is to hang in there and make the most of this wonderful opportunity you have been given. Try to keep busy and get involved with your current community.

I know it is hard right now, but your advisers are right. The home sickness will pass.
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Chartreux
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   Posted 9/14/2011 9:07 PM (GMT -6)   
It's Genetic and Jim,
Both gave you some great advise and I would urge you to stay and try to do your best.
You should maybe go on a tour of Rome if possible, you might find it to be a beauitful
place. Try saying hello to someone in a class your in and maybe you'll be making friends in no time.
Are there other's there that are abroad like you...ask where people are from, it
might surprise you...
Many well wishes to you, keep us posted on how your doing, okay...
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