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netball
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   Posted 10/5/2011 9:58 PM (GMT -6)   
hi everyone,
 
 just lost in this world. wish i didnt wake up every morning. wish i was happy. seems thats way to much to ask for.

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bayoub2
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   Posted 10/5/2011 10:06 PM (GMT -6)   
Did something happen?

Even if nothing disastrous happened, regular life can get overwhelming. Do not hurt yourself. Stop. Call a helpline please. Things DO get better

I have been in your shoes, it will get better, but reach out to someone

Let us know

Maggie

netball
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   Posted 10/5/2011 10:12 PM (GMT -6)   
maggie,

my mum is just making my life hell and is not giving me any freedom. im 13 which is young. both my parents hate eachother and have been split up for as long as i can remember. i have a choice where i want to live and up until now, i have lived at both houses. but im sick of all the crap i get from mum so i want to move out. she wont let me go to my dads for good. so dad is getting laywers involved. costly, stressful and legal. cant go back. im having alot of conflict with one person at my school. ive hurt my knee badly because i wacked it with a hammer,and its been 4 weeks and stilll very painful. so i have been referred ontoa sports surgeon. they suspect damage to the ACL. theres a load more problems. just over everything. dont see why i wasnt goven up for adoption. i cant do anything right, i hate myself!!! :'(

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   Posted 10/6/2011 7:57 AM (GMT -6)   
Calm down sweetie...

There is a good chance that you can live with your dad. If it takes legal, it does. If you tell the courts what your moms boyfriend has been doing, you will not have to go back. So try this. You are worth every cent and bit of legal process that it takes.

Hugs, Karen
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netball
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   Posted 10/6/2011 11:51 AM (GMT -6)   
i cant calm down. im so overwhelmed about everything. im young and i cant handle this!!!!!! :'(

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   Posted 10/6/2011 11:54 AM (GMT -6)   
Do you have a counselor or therapist? You really nned someone to talk to. We are here for you.

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   Posted 10/6/2011 1:00 PM (GMT -6)   
I think it would be a good idea to talk to your counselor. Email me if you need to hon. This is going to work out for the best, but you have to tell everything that has been going on at your moms house. You deserve a break and this could be it. You are a good person. These are adults that are making the decisions. Trust them, but tell everything or else they might not give you the opertunity to live with your dad. I know you will feel more safe there. You have endured enough Jess, it is time for you to be happy.

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netball
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   Posted 10/6/2011 8:54 PM (GMT -6)   
karen,

i cannot tell them about mike, i just cant and im sorry. i didnt talk with my councillor today. i just sat in silence. i felt like i was going to cry. i think she could see that i was upset. this was the last day of school today. it is school holidays for the next 2 weeks and im not looking foward to it. it will be a holiday packed with drama, unfortunately. 2 weeks of having no one to talk to. oh, and i have emailed you this morning. not sure if u have got it???????
tomorrow i am going to dads for a week. that wil be good for me. i hope. i had a crap day at school. every day seems to be getting worse. i hate it :'(

awty
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   Posted 10/7/2011 7:14 AM (GMT -6)   

Netball,

 

I know I am telling you something you don't want to hear, but I will say it for you to consider.  One way Dad can avoid going through the whole legal process and having to fund it, is if you notify CYF.  They will do everything and you will be less over whelmed, you will also hold the knowledge that other siblings will be protected.  Ok, just saying this for you to have another angle to consider.

I know this is so big, so overwhelming, the only way it will be less for you to carry, is if you are able to share some parts that you are comfortable sharing with trusted people.  (I know which part you don't want said, but there is other stuff around that too)  This will really lighten your burdan. 

Just know this, you have been so strong and so brave to put up with all you have endured, you may not recognise that right now, but you have been.

 

 


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   Posted 10/7/2011 8:20 AM (GMT -6)   
I didn't get an email, I will write you one. Honey, I know that this is going to work out. I wish you would tell what is going on at your moms, but if you aren't comfortable with that, then I guess you should do what you are comfortable with. I am praying for you.

Hugs, Karen
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netball
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   Posted 10/7/2011 2:22 PM (GMT -6)   
awty: i think dad will be contacting CYF as we have been through them before with my brother. and we know some good contacts. who know the family situation. quite well.
karen: mby i should just stop all this fighting and live with mum. mby the abuse from mike and the crap i get from mum has all been some sort of sign. that i shouldnt be here?? i have replied to ur email.

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   Posted 10/7/2011 2:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Don'[t live with your mom. Give it a try at your dad's. I think you will be much happier there, just try, okay??? Let us know how it goes. That isn't a sign, but going to your dads could be. A sign that you need a break and a fair shake in life.

Just give it a try...

Hugs, Karen
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awty
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   Posted 10/8/2011 4:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Netball, if Dad does notify cyf, this would be a great start getting them involved at this stage, they can help with the legal stuff, get proper help for you. I really hope Dad does. Don't give up kiddo, you are so close to finding your own feet and starting a new chapter in your life

bayoub2
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   Posted 10/8/2011 6:18 AM (GMT -6)   
Netball

We are all cheering you on, that you will get a break, get away from that woman(I'm not sure she deserves to call herself a mother) and biuld a good life

I am a praying woman and you are in them, netball
Don't forget we are here

Maggie

netball
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   Posted 10/8/2011 7:28 PM (GMT -6)   
thank you so much maggie, awty and karen. xxxx

love jess

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   Posted 10/9/2011 8:37 AM (GMT -6)   
We all love you Jess...

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