Hello, Lost and Searching, and welcome to the Depression Forum,
I tend to agree with you that in-laws' welcome can wear out rather quickly if they are not handled very delicately. And every family needs its independence. However, in this case, your wife is revealing
that her little child within needs the support of her mother. The plea
to keep her mother at your home is going to continue until something is done to break the regression to a childlike desire.
Counselling is an excellent start. Get into it with a psychiatrist as soon as you are able and let the physician know the truth of what is happening in the home.
It is the wise in-law who recognizes the family's need for independence and can readily pack her bags and go back home to visit again in another year or so for a SHORT time!
Your problems can be resolved; bring it all to light in the presence of a specialist along with proper medication if called for in you and/or your wife temporarily. Things will get better soon.
Others will be along to express their views, I think.
Post Edited (It's Genetic) : 10/7/2011 10:23:36 PM (GMT-6)