Dealing with snarky people.............

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   Posted 10/16/2011 8:09 AM (GMT -6)   
Good Morning Everyone,
I sit here this morning feeling hurt, upset and in tears as I allowed myself to let another persons words make me feel less then worthy. 
I understand  will never be able to stop people from making rude, insensitive, mean, nasty or negative remarks. I know I do  have  the choice as to how to react to such negativity. I can either get hooked into it and become upset, defensive or angry in response, or I can leave the emotion with the other person and stay calm, positive and in control.
My problems is I make it through the social event but wake up the next morning in tears as the hurt floods in and I have trouble just letting go. All I need right now is friends to remind me that I am OK and not a looser as that is what I feel like right now.
The person making the comments was my daughter-in-law and I refuse to react as I love my son and would never make an issue that would cause him to feel caught in the middle of my own problems.
Thanks and many hugs,
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   Posted 10/16/2011 8:22 AM (GMT -6)   
Awww Kitt,

You are such a special person. I am sorry dil is being snarky. You don't deserve that. Remember that it will all come back on her one day. You are a wonderful person and friend. Always remember that. Let her wallow in her own self pity. She isn't worth getting upset over, though I know you love her because it is your son's wife. Just know how special you are to us and that we think the world of you Kitt. Glad you posted here, but sorry you are down. Now pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again. I am hearing music, I think this was a song when I was a kid... lol...

Either way Kitt, I hope that your day gets better. You have so many fans here on this forum. You are special...

Luv and hugs, Karen
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   Posted 10/16/2011 9:21 AM (GMT -6)   
You are a great person and I'm wondering if your DIL is doing this
because maybe she is jealous or envy you...You did
very good by not falling to her level and you are such a good person...
Please don't let what she said get to you, that's the hard part...
Hope today is a better day for you...
many well wishes...
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   Posted 10/16/2011 10:40 AM (GMT -6)   
These ladies are right, in my view, Kitt, and so are you. Don't sink to her level. She has obviously never been taught that what we do to others we also do to ourselves. She has to be loaded with self-hate if she does this often.

You do not and never will deserve that kind of behavior. Somebody has to teach her to stop it. Maybe her husband will see it one day and
teach her how to conduct herself.
Try to remember, Kitt, that anger is a positive emotion and helps to protect our integrity (and the little child within).  It's not wrong to discipline others if it teaches them a lesson they'll never forget about the right way to treat others.  They are often amazed when they realize what they are doing; they have had no ability to see it in themselves.

Here's hoping you are even stronger tomorrow for having stood strong against the weak.


Post Edited (It's Genetic) : 10/16/2011 10:58:50 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 10/16/2011 10:53 AM (GMT -6)   
we love you kit dont let her hurt you
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are

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   Posted 10/16/2011 4:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Kitt!…you are way OK with me! I for one,... look up to you! wink

I really really do! I know when I need some moderator advice, I can depend on you always!…Snap out of it!…your a good person and are loved by many here.

Take care,

Now!…let your sunshine brighten the day!smilewinkgrin

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   Posted 10/16/2011 5:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks everyone.  I am letting go of the feelings and trying to just be me and not worry if that is not good enough for some people. 
You guys are so great here and coming here letting out my feelings always helps me get back on my horse and mosey along.
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