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   Posted 10/19/2011 2:46 PM (GMT -6)   
I know I'm new to this but it was great to talk to some folks who understand.  My son's 13th birthday is today and thank god he went to work with his dad.  He had the day off from school.  I was in a panic as to what I was going to do with him that would be fun.  I'm having a hard time being or having much fun. 
I did get out to my therapist appointment and was motivated enough to stop at toys r us to buy Ben one of the Star Wars figures that was on his list.  Got to the grocery store to buy him a cake and a few things.  Its more than I have done in one day in a while.  I couldn't wait to get home. 
His dmh worker called and suggested that I sign up for dmh assisstance to get some help in the home for myself.  I guess its a good idea.  She said since I have a chronic illness that I would be approved.  My mood was stable until I spoke with her then I couldn't stop crying. My husband wants to take Ben out to dinner so I need to pull it together and I think I have.  I have to keep telling myself that its okay not to be a barrell of laughs. It is just pouring buckets here and hard to motivate myself to go out again but I will. 

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   Posted 10/19/2011 2:56 PM (GMT -6)   
cookie, hope you are able to get the assistance. Enjoy the birthday dinner. I haven't bee a barrel of laughs either. But, getting out is good. Here for you.

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   Posted 10/19/2011 3:16 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks. My son now wants to play lazer tag so I'm trying to muster up the energy for that. Its pouring out and I really don't want to go out but I will. He and my husband are on their way home. He's such a good kid. I hate to disappoint him on his birthday.
thanks for checking in. Its really great to know there are people out there who understand.


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   Posted 10/19/2011 3:21 PM (GMT -6)   
You can do it cookie. It is obvious how much you love your son, so even if you can't keep up with him sometimes, you're still there for him.
Take all the help you can get. Do you live in the US? 'Cause I sure could use some help too.

You are there with a gift and a cake, add a big hug (just to embarrass him-lol and you will not disappoint him. Ny daughter is 15 so I can relate somewhat.

Don't worry have fun


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   Posted 10/19/2011 3:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi cookie,

Welcome to the forum. It has been raining all day here today too. Very windy. I hate it.

I hope you have a wonderful time.

Hugs, Karen
Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia

fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression, allergies

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   Posted 10/19/2011 3:31 PM (GMT -6)   
I do try to be there for him all the time. I try to teach him to be independent but he sometimes has trouble with that. He does know he is loved very much.

I do live in the US. I'm hoping to get some help in my home so I don't feel so overwhelmed by it all. It may take some time to go through the process.

thanks everyone.

It's Genetic
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   Posted 10/19/2011 6:55 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi, 2Coolcookie,

I read a little earlier tonight that exercise is as effective as counselling in
overcoming depression. So if you add that to visits to your counselor, things might turn around more rapidly for you.

In addition, cognitive behavior manuals have been rated as being strongly effective in relieving depression (read that also).

If you son knows that he's loved greatly, things are in very, very good shape for him, in my view. Love solves many of life's difficulties.

Take care and feel better soon.


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   Posted 10/19/2011 8:20 PM (GMT -6)   
happy birthday to your son cookie. with much healing compassion to you. jamie.


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