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lululabelle12
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   Posted 10/22/2011 2:50 PM (GMT -6)   
ive always seemed to live in the past and the future...the past hurts me and im constantly worrying about what's going to happen in the future. i cant seem to live in the moment. no matter what i do it doesnt work!

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   Posted 10/22/2011 5:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Try meditation...

It has helped me and others on the forum. When you do meditation it keeps you in the moment.

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Alaskah
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   Posted 10/23/2011 7:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Mindfulness meditation addresses precisely this. It keeps you focused on what you are feeling at the very moment, what thoughts flow naturally through your mind, and keeps you from thinking about the past or future. I did some research on mindfulness-based cognitive therapy which is being studied on patients for anxiety and depression. It was an interesting approach, but I don't feel you need to go to therapy to use many of those techniques in daily life.

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   Posted 10/23/2011 8:07 PM (GMT -6)   
There is no quick fix to learning to "live in the moment". It is a process that you must keep working on even after you seem to have it conquered.

I agree that meditation may be of help. Study up on it. There are many kinds of meditation and you should view them and those techniques as starting points and do not be afraid to combine various forms and create your own. There really is no right way or wrong way when it comes to meditation so long as you do not do anything to cause you harm or that has the potential for harm.
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   Posted 10/24/2011 8:07 AM (GMT -6)   
It takes alot of practice...it is so hard stopping those loops of thought and tune then out. I have started with deep breathing exercises-google it so you do it right and I am slowing down the intrusive worry thinking

It takes practice but is worth it

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   Posted 10/24/2011 9:15 AM (GMT -6)   
Try focussing on only what is going on at that particular moment. These guys are right, it does take practice. Basically you put up a mental stopsign when you start thinking these things with worry and sorrow. Force yourself back to thinking of the present. Living in the moment, or the now is so wonderful. Have you thought about getting a book on it, or on meditation? It would really help you. Or start counseling. They help with that too.

After I got fibromyalgia, I couldn't worry about the past or future anymore. I never knew how I was going to feel on any given day. So I just quit worrying about it. Like they say. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Treat it that way. Focus on you, what you are doing. I use to have to pay attention to what I was doing. When I would do dishes, I would talk to myself. I am now washing a plate, then rinsing it. If I didn't my mind would stray. I have a problem with obsessive thinking. I started taking abilify and that helped me. I don't even know if I am making sense anymore so bear with me.

When you practice this or meditation, you are actually doing it. I can give you some tips on meditation if you would like, but I think a book would serve you better. Things have probably changed since I started this. It has been many years now. Deep breathing really helps too. When you focus on your breathing, you are in the now.

Good luck to you. Keep posting. Let us know how you are doing.

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bayoub2
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   Posted 10/24/2011 1:47 PM (GMT -6)   
Perfect sense Karen-lol
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