Sad thing is, on Thurs, 24 hrs after Mum died, I was talking to her from the upstairs window when I was having a smoke, she spoke very few words, but I wish she had told me. Thanks for your concern Grandma J, it's been two weeks now, and it still upsets me going home, and knowing there is just one wall between my place and hers and I had no idea, the little one never cried