Having My Parents Visit

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   Posted 11/8/2011 11:59 AM (GMT -6)   
My parents just visited me (we live 2800 miles away from each other) for ten days. Yesterday, I was really frustrated with them and I thought I was ready for them to leave, but after I took them to the airport I lost it. I cried last night and now I can't get out of bed. I just keep thinking that I should have been nicer, that I should have made more of our time together. I feel like such an ungrateful daughter. They moved me into my new apartment, and not only helped me set it up but added things to it. We went to the second-hand stores several times, my dad built me a couple simple pieces, we put together a chest of drawers... and my mom was instrumental in moving out of my old apartment. I couldn't have done this without my parents. I am really depressed. I don't want to live here forever, and ... I don't know. I just am freaking out that in six months or whenever I move out of here I'll be on my own. I'll have all this cool stuff, but I won't be able to bring it back to New York with me.

I know having your parents is supposed to be stressful, but I just feel bad. They were so nice to me, and I feel like I was just not present.

Crying uncontrollably. Can't motivate. Resisting calling parents. I am so lame.

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   Posted 11/8/2011 1:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Well why don't you give your parents a call or write them a letter and say you are sorry about the tension during their visit.

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   Posted 11/8/2011 1:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Or send a nice card saying you apprecaite and love them...that is really all parents want from their kids..we know we can be a pain, annoying, hovering...but that's why you love us too.

We love you when you are unbearably crabby and hateful...we love you no matter what, forever and always.

So send a card or give them a call, no need to even apologize unless youwere really hateful-lol

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   Posted 11/8/2011 3:34 PM (GMT -6)   
I think that the card idea is a good one. Send them a card with a letter telling them how much they are loved and appreciated.

They might not have noticed the tension as much as you did. Believe me... Send a card.

I hope that you feel better soon.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 11/8/2011 7:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks, everyone. I think you're right. A letter would explain things well... I just wish I felt better.
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   Posted 11/8/2011 7:41 PM (GMT -6)   
Put in a call to your counselor and see if you can get in, that
should help with how you feel, it's not always easy to have your parents around
mine drive me nuts after a week, I think what the others said about writing a letter will help
and I hope your feeling better soon, many well wishes...
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