So glad to see your post...sounds like you are carrying a heavy load-don't forget to take care of you too.
The hardest thing for a parent to go thru (besides losing them) is to watch your child struggle in pain and not be able to help..I went thru that with mine for a loooong time..Katie has agreed to go to this counselor we found and I am thankful.
I think boys must have a harder time accepting help-my hubby is the same way "No, everything is fine" attitude when we know it is not. Is he on meds? The irritacility is classic teen depression, they say. You never know what will set them off. Katie was very hostile and rude, frustrated and angry so easily. We have to keep our cool, which is hard I know.
It is good sign he is seeing friends. Isolating makes depression worse so that is a good thing/ And yes, he can start uni when he is ready. I wish I had taken a little time to work before I went to college and maybe a little more mature. I told Katie she could work for a year after high school if she wanted-get out in the real world.
I guess, duck, you just keep on loving him and keep the door open...I think this will turn out ok for him. I will certainly pray that it is so.
So nice to hear from you again-your son sounds like a terrific kid and you are a devoted parent