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greenbean885
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   Posted 11/28/2011 9:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone. I wanted to give an update on everything that has been going on lately since things aren't AS miserable anymore. One of my friends got my things back from my ex and I spoke with ex's sister to let her know to what extent I felt things had gotten. This may have been inappropriate, but I really just can't be consumed with this situation any longer. I felt that if I at least let her family, or someone in her family, know what was going on with her depression then they could keep an eye on her. Since they live over two hours away and ex doesn't talk to them much, I don't know how successful that will be, but I felt better making someone else aware of the situation.

My sister has really been opening up to me about what she feels or thinks in her own depression. She did tell me some things that bothered/worried me, but I am just going to try to keep in touch with her. I finally told her that I was worried about her and it bothered me that she does not seek help. She feels that she has a handle on the situation, and at times, I really believe her. I know the best thing I can do is just listen. She shared with me that one day last week she really pushed herself to get up and clean a bit and how she felt a lot better. I explained my understanding of how depression affects the brain and suggested that she challenge herself to completing a small task maybe every other day or so. It was like a revelation hit her! She said she always felt better on the days she pushed herself... so maybe I am helping her understand more than I even know???

I haven't ever shared this, but my dad has a problem with alcohol. It has gone on for years and at one point, he admitted it to me. My family visited this weekend and I was enraged on Saturday when I found that my unopened liter of vodka had been drained halfway down. I purchased the vodka for a party. so aside from the loss of money, I was more annoyed that he sneaks around with drinking like no one notices. I hid the bottle that minute and before leaving, he gave me the exact amount the bottle cost. It angers me because he KNEW that I knew what he had done and as usual, he just "pays" me off for keeping his secret. It's not even that I keep his secret, I've just accepted there's nothing I can do. Both my grandmother and I only see him a handful of times a year and we clued into the situation long ago; it's absolutely impossible that my mother doesn't know. Everyone in my family just ignores problems, whether personal or within the family. I don't think that's healthy, but it has NEVER changed. They do not know I am in therapy because it is not something they think highly of. I am on my own now, so it's not any of their business... but I'm not really one to keep secrets so it's difficult watching what I say around them!

And just a little whining for a minute... I have a friend who was mutual to both me and the ex. At first, I really thought she was a great friend; she works for my therapist and got me in as an emergency when no one else would help. But, she says little things that lead me to believe she knows more about my sessions than she should. Also, she plays both sides between me and my ex. For example, I had dinner with this friend last Saturday and lunch again last Sunday... she mentions nothing of my ex, but waits until Monday when she is back in her own city. I feel like it's sketchy. One day, she is chastising me for being frustrated with my ex, the next she is chastising me for caring about her. Moreso, who knows what she tells the ex! She claims they "don't talk" but at least once a week she tells me something about her!

That's a problem of being in such a small town... every time someone sees one of us, they report back to the other, no matter what I ask. An old friend called me yesterday to tell me she saw her and they talked for a minute and that ex said "time..." and that "she's (I am) the greatest". I guess its nice to know she doesn't think badly of me because her actions surely show differently. The friend I spoke with yesterday said she just looked helpless when I was brought up and that it seemed she genuinely cared. A couple weeks ago, this would have meant a lot to me. Now, I'm taking it with a grain of salt. I have no idea why or what she needs so much "time" for and quite honestly, I think it's selfish and a little cruel. I am not sure if I posted this, but she betrayed me before all of this happened... went behind my back and lost all of my trust. And she needs time???? Oh no mam!!! I asked for time but nooooooo I was dragged into this whole ordeal because she needed "help" and was "scared" and asked me to support her after she broke my heart and lost my trust. I was willing to get over it, but with everything else that has gone on, why should I? So she can come back in my life and do it all over again??? How do I know she won't betray me or abandon me at any given point together?

Sorry- this ended up being a lot longer than I thought! Things are getting better, but I still do not see a light at the end of the tunnel, an end to the madness. At least I'm not backtracking, right?

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   Posted 11/28/2011 10:42 AM (GMT -6)   
Sorry about the situation your in, I suppose these so called friends of yours are
hoping that you get back with your ex...So it might be time to move on and not
contact some of these friends anymore, maybe seek out a different therapists...
Try contacting another therapists even if you have to go farther out of your way, it might
be better for your health overall...Things will get better and you are backtracking in someways
by seeing this friend every time you go in for your therapy sessions...
Others will come by with better advise, and I hope things get better for you soon,
as I do care...many well wishes...
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   Posted 11/28/2011 11:51 AM (GMT -6)   
I think Chartreux is right, move on and make some new friends. It sounds like they got you right in the middle of things. You might need a clean break. I hope that things get better for you soon. I am glad that you posted your feelings. Gettting them down helps you recognize them more.

Remember that you are a good person, you deserve to be happy.

I hope that things work out for the good for you.

Keep posting and know that we all care.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 11/28/2011 1:00 PM (GMT -6)   
That little Miss who is revealing information from your personal file
with your psychiatrist is in danger of being fired immediately if her employer ever finds out. That kind of thing is really serious business.
You need to advise her about that and see that she stops it. Otherwise, report it to your physician if you see evidence of it again.

I.G.

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   Posted 11/28/2011 1:32 PM (GMT -6)   
I totally agree with IG-that is a gross breach of confidentiality, which is the cornerstone of effective therapy. I live in a small town too and travel 40 minutes to go out of town.

That behavior is unconscionable in a socalled medical employee.

Good luck
Maggie
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greenbean885
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   Posted 11/28/2011 2:29 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks everyone. I already do travel an hour out of town to visit this therapist. She is the only one in the area that practices EMDR therapy. I am very comfortable with her and feel like a lot of progress has been made. Normally, I stay with this friend after my sessions so I do not have to drive the hour back home at night, but this may need to change.

I know the best way to handle this would be to tell the friend how I feel, but with everything else going on, I'd rather just distance myself from her for awhile. Is that selfish?? I am normally all about expressing my feelings, but in this case a) I'm already worn out and b) I don't think it would help the friendship much. I think this is her personality and she's crossed into the territory of "my personal business". I am going to see if she says anything else and if so, I will let my therapist know I am uncomfortable.

Yall ever heard that phrase that in a small town everyone knows your business even before you do? It doesn't matter if the person is my friend or not, I've been confronted by people who have "heard" we dated for two years. I'm writing it off as immaturity, but it makes me stay home more than I'd like to. It's quite silly, some days I stay in just because I don't want to deal with people's questions or stories about the ex. I don't want anyone to run into me, see me, have something to report back to her... I had contemplated moving for awhile, but I'm in a really great job and apartment so I'll just have to find other ways to deal. Like posting here!

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   Posted 11/28/2011 3:33 PM (GMT -6)   
I have to say, Greenbean, that your being very rational in all of this. I am glad that you started this thread. I can see you are getting stronger and thinking very careful and clearly. I am seeing progress and that makes me so happy for you. I think you got your head on straight and I see you moving forward. As for small towns, I live in one too. I barely associate with anybody, but they all know who I am. Even if I don't know them. I am sure I have been the talk of the town more than once. I just don't listen.

The town I live in is pretty disfunctional in itself. A lot of drugs and alcoholism. And it goes on for generations. I think that there is a lot of mental illness here too. Probably depression from all the alcohol. It is really sad. But there are good and bad people, just like anywhere else. But yeah, for as far as them knowing everybody's business, that is for sure true.

The closest town to shop is ten miles away and that is a small town too. Then there is a town 20 miles away in the other direction. That is where I normally because not too many people know me. I can casually say hello and not have to worry about conversations. My psychiatrist and psychologist is about an hour away. It is a long trip to go to see them. Luckily I go every other month, so that isn't too bad.

Sometimes I think distancing yourself is better than confronting. I guess it depends on the situation in itself. Is it worth it? Sometimes not. And just moving on is the best thing.

I feel that you are handling things well. One day at a time when you can too. One moment when necessary.

Keep posting, keep on keeping on...

Hugs, Karen :)
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greenbean885
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   Posted 11/28/2011 3:52 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks, Karen- you made me smile. A nice big smile at my computer screen :D

I am glad you understand about the small town deal... I would say that your town is most likely a lot smaller than mine, but man, word just travels fast. I actually am from New Orleans, so it took so long to get used to the small town mentality and just as annoying as it is that everyone knows my business, it is sometimes comforting (on good days) that I know someone just about everywhere I go. Well, it was comforting when me and ex would run errands, it seemed to make the task less daunting.

Because the area is so small and everyone knows about my two year relationship, wayyyy too many people are too interested in if I'll go back to dating guys or if I'll date a girl again. Personally, I'm only interested in dating myself right now, but I definitely know what it feels like to be the "talk of the town" at times. I ignore it too because I do have some great friends here and actually, a great reputation because of the lawyer I work for. But as we say in the south... "bless their hearts..." to all the haters.

Maybe I do not see a light at the end of the tunnel because this is just LIFE and their is no ending until the man above decides it's time. I am really ready to have some fun. On a whim, I bought a kinect for xbox just so I can dance!! haha I don't even know how to play video games, but I felt like I needed to let loose a bit and try something new!

Just like everyone told me it would get better, it has been. I wont dare say I'm complete or at 100%, but it has been almost a week since I have cried. Not that crying is a bad thing, I just think crying over ex's depression and selfishness has taken up as many tears as it needed. I realized today that it's not my fault she has done this and that if she wants back in my life, it's not my problem or my concern for her to do so. It will be challenging, as I'm sure it will be very difficult for me to trust her but again, not my problem. If she wants it, she'll work for it. If not, well, too bad for her.

Some days like today I feel so strong! And then I get caught off guard and have teary moments. That will get better too?

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   Posted 11/28/2011 4:32 PM (GMT -6)   
I think we are always going to have some teary moments. I do. But how we react to it is the key. Sometimes it is good just to let it all out. I lost one of my dogs in May, to old age. I still cry when I see her picture and think about her. It was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. She was 15 years old. So I had her a long time. But I just figure that it is natural to cry once in awhile. Just as long as we have more good days than bad. I think we are all a work in progress and are going to hit some bumps in the road from time to time.

I am so happy that you are feeling better. And I truly hope it continues. Do keep us posted. We all do care.

Talk to you again soon.

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   Posted 11/28/2011 4:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Nawlins!!! I live in Bay St Louis, Mississippi!!! Talk about small towns. Boy if you don't come from the riught family you don't get elected or get a good job...so much nepotism.
My family have people from st bernard and plaquemines parish, slidell and we love the city but now they are shooting in the French Quarter, I don't know...such a magnificent city (like traveling to a foreign country sometimes) so full of life and food and music, it is soooo much more than bare boobies during Mardi Gras. New Orleans is still a family town, isn't it greenbean? Don't you miss all the boils and parades? We live on the bayou and eat fresh fish and shrimp all the time-FREE!! Love it

Anyway, greenbean, nice to meet you cher.

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   Posted 11/28/2011 5:03 PM (GMT -6)   
Man, Maggie you make me feel like I'm back at home!!! I do miss it, but my family is still there so I visit a couple times a year. When I got really low recently, I took a weekend trip home because I just KNEW it would make me feel better. I stood on a corner in the quarter and just watched life happen all around me. It's silly sounding, especially for people who dislike the city, but I swear, every time I go home, New Orleans just wraps her big arms around me and is so glad to have me there. There's so much beauty in the simplicity of the city's complication... if that makes sense. A lot of times, people think I'm difficult, but I'm very simple, just like New Orleans.

Mississippi isn't so bad either :) I live in North Louisiana now, in between Shreveport and Alexandria and its a whole different world up here. Once you get off I-10, you're in a new territory! When I was younger, I spent a lot of time in Gulport and Natchez, traveling with a friend's family and spending time with my grandmother who is across the river from Natchez.

I love the history embedded in the South. I love New Orleans, but I think there is still a lot more for me to experience in other cities. Just yesterday I went to one of the plantations around here and I confirmed why I stayed here after graduation... because I'm not finished taking it all in. I felt odd taking a tour of the grounds alone, but I was so happy afterwards. That must be what people mean when they urge me to take care of myself- do things that make me happy, even if I do them alone!

Everyone in this forum is so wonderful. I hope I continue to help others in my responses too. Just because I am on the road to feeling better doesn't mean I want to say goodbye!!!!

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   Posted 11/28/2011 6:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Yes, New Orleans is a magical, bawdy, prim and proper, loving mystical place...sucha blend of so many cultures..it is one of a kind. Our part of the Coast has the same Spanish French Indian influences and lots of Yadda-yaddas on the weekend-lol!!

I've heard North La is reeeaalllyy different, more like rural Misissippi. Anyway, nice reminiscing with you-I hope your travels will be broad and you alwayscome home to NOLA..

Have a nice evening
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   Posted 11/28/2011 8:16 PM (GMT -6)   
Greenbean,

Just because you feel better doesn't mean you quit posting. We love everybody here and want you to stick around. I am glad that you met Maggie. That is so cool!!!

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 11/28/2011 9:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Greenbean.....just reading your posts makes me feel better....thanks for sharing and I hope you continue to discover you can be happy on your own.


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   Posted 11/30/2011 9:49 AM (GMT -6)   
When I was younger, my dad always told me " People don't hurt your feelings, you let them hurt your feelings". I thought about that last week and decided that I wouldn't let my ex's current actions hurt me anymore. I really have to make a conscious effort to do so, but like anything, I'm sure it will pay off. The bad part is.... I'm still really hurt by her betrayal of my trust before this whole shindig started. Her betrayal was the reason I first sought counseling again and everything just snowballed after that with her depression. On a scale of 1-10, I'd say my pain was at about a 15. Its not so constricting anymore, maybe around a 9/10, but it still hurts. Its odd, I don't think about the situation, but my heart feels it. When I do think about it, all I can do is cry. So, I don't think about it.

Nothing that she can say or do at this point would help me feel better (not like she's trying). To some, it may not be a big deal to lose someone's trust, but to me, that's one of the things I hold most valuable. Ever since we have met, I have told her, "if you ever do _____, it will literally break my heart". I wasn't kidding. It goes back to events in my past I knew that a certain situation would bring up emotions that I just CANNOT handle.

When she sees my friends, she talks about how great/wonderful/kind I am. Friend, let me tell you something, if you think so highly of someone, USE YOUR BIG GIRL WORDS AND COMMUNICATE! She poured salt on an open wound by ignoring me... Maybe I am silly for not understanding that "figuring things out" means "not talking to you". Now I know for the future. I think she is immature for not clearly communicating "I'd like if we didn't contact each other". Again, some of you may think I should have picked up on that. I specifically asked her that weeks ago, making it an easy yes or no, and as expected, no answer. I'm not a perfect communicator, but I'm clearly more advanced than her and it's FRUSTRATING.

I am not sad right now, I just wanted to vent. I know that so many other people have way more challenging situations and I do feel guilty that mine has affected me so badly; I can't ignore it though, that's not healthy. I am thankful for the day and the wonderful things it brings. CASA training last night was very informative, made me feel like I was back in school again. I know that it will be fulfilling to help those children, but in no way do I think it will be easy. I'm going to a fundraiser tonight for a local who is battling cancer. Just so happens that ex is good friends with her, we went to her wedding this summer. Prayers for the fundraiser and for my strength (should I happen to see her) are greatly appreciated! smilewinkgrin

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   Posted 11/30/2011 10:24 AM (GMT -6)   
I hope that the fundraiser goes well for you. If she is there, just go on the way you normally would.

You are going to get through this.

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   Posted 12/1/2011 10:07 AM (GMT -6)   
Didn't go to the fundraiser, friend couldn't make it in town and I wasn't going to face the possibility of seeing ex alone. Instead, I decorated the tree, did some laundry, set up the router for internet at home, cooked dinner, thawed food for today and did the dishes. Quite an exciting night.

I've heard that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am really not finding that to be true. Of course, I still love her, but like we've all acknowledged, it's over. Those words may never have come out of her mouth, but actions speak louder than words. I'm just overall SHOCKED and SURPRISED that she hasn't come back yet. Some of you may take that as cocky, but I know its my self confidence. Like anyone, I have flaws but I am one great gal. In every other break up, the ex has come back, realizing his mistake and asking forgiveness. I guess girls are just different?!?! It used to make me wonder what was "wrong with me" that she hasn't come back, made amends for her behavior... but now I know not to think that way; that maybe she is just blinded right now by her own troubles.

Is anyone familiar with the stages of grief? I think I have hit anger/acceptance. I know they're two different stages, but I feel like my anger pushes the acceptance.

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   Posted 12/1/2011 12:33 PM (GMT -6)   
I believe with grief, the symptoms can overlap. You are accepting and this could make you angry. Natural response, don't beat yourself up over the anger. It happens to all of us.

Sounds like you got a lot done yesterday. I am trying to push myself to do something, but always have an excuse not to. lol... What a day...

Take care,

Hugs, Karen

I will look up the stages of grief, I use to know them...
 
http://www.recover-from-grief.com/7-stages-of-grief.html
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   Posted 12/1/2011 2:41 PM (GMT -6)   
Cleaning makes my anxiety feel so so so much better. I had wished that I could take up running, but I can't get addicted to it like I can cleaning.

Karen, sometimes I am so frustrated with my friend's lack of knowledge in regards to depression and grief. A lot of them get frustrated with me for being "too understanding" of my ex's struggle. I know her mental health doesn't make her behavior ok, but I just can't seem to dislike her the way they want me to. I understand they don't like that she has hurt me (come one, who likes being hurt??) but it offends me when they say ugly things about her. In fact, I don't think they should bring her up at all, but that's a different story. For whatever reason, her friend's suicide has really seemed to have taken over her life. When I talked to her sister, she made the same comment and I am sure that she is struggling with grief also.

I know that we cannot expect other's to behave the way that we do. If roles were reversed, I would really hope she would be as understanding as I am, but we are not the same people. Instead, I tell myself that whether or not this understanding and compassion is returned to me, I am earning brownie points for heaven and bettering myself.

P.S. If I lived near you, I would gladly clean your house, wash your dishes and do your laundry :D

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   Posted 12/1/2011 3:08 PM (GMT -6)   
It is hard when others are trying to tell us what to do and how we should react. Can you tell them that you just don't want to talk about it? I think that would be the best thing.

You are right, her mental health does not make her behavior okay. But I give you credit for not judging her. This is hard, especially when we care so much. You are handling this well. Probably a lot better than I would have. It is so hard when emotions get into the way. It is hard to be objective in a situation like this.

And yes, you are earning brownie points. And gold stars.

LOL... I wish you did live near me. We could at least have a cup of coffee together.

Still lazy today. Giving myself permission...

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   Posted 12/1/2011 4:35 PM (GMT -6)   
Coffee sounds so good right about now. You take that lazy day girl! I am planning a get together for this weekend- I have never planned one before! There is a big festival in my city this weekend so old friends are coming in town.

I don't cook. Ex is a sous chef, no need for me to know how! I am facing my hatred of the kitchen and trying to make some soup tonight. I will attempt chili for the weekend. My close friend asked if I was feeling ok haha. I don't enjoy cooking, but I do have the means and it will keep me busy. I have patches that need to be painted over in the bathroom, I've put it off since June. It will literally take 10 minutes, I don't know why I haven't done it. But now that people will be over, it needs to be completed. Started the project with ex, finishing it alone. Bittersweet, eh?

Maybe I will even paint my nails for the occasion

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   Posted 12/1/2011 5:52 PM (GMT -6)   
One of my girlfriend's got me some hand lotion awhile back. Which led me to using it, and that led me to painting my nails. They looked really good for awhile. Then they got too long and started breaking, so I am starting all over again. But little things like that make us feel good. As well as completing the project in the bathroom. I am glad that you are cooking and getting things ready for the weekend. Sometimes we just need a little push in the right direction.

I did end up staying busy today. My husband and I worked on a project together. But I didn't get the dreaded laundromat thing done. I iwll do that tomorrow or Saturday. I will have to. lol... Wont have any clothes to wear. hahaha...

I use to cook a lot. My first husband worked early in the morning so I was up at 3:30 am, preparing his breakfast and lunch for work. Then had supper ready when he got home. My husband now loves to cook so that helps a lot. But I can't cook nearly as good as I use to, run out of ideas and such. His favorite is my lazagna. That is an all day event to make. Same with spaghetti. But it feeds us for a few days so that helps. Often I make a big pot of chicken noodle soup and freeze it in small containers. We take that out on days that neither of us feels like cooking.

A lot of my posts eventually come around to be talking about food. I am bummed though. Gained 2 pounds since Thanksgiving time. I have to avoid the sweets. Too much is really bad for me. Makes me super tired. I ate sweets the other day and the next day I was so fatigued. I am type 2, diet controlled diabetic. They call it glucose intolerant. I don't have to take medications for it but came close to it. I lucked out on my last test and they said I was okay. I have lost 25 pounds too, so that helps. I quit drinking fountain pops (that I was addicted to). That helped and walking... I drink water now with a wedge of lemon in it. When I remember the lemons. lol... I always forget to buy them.

Hope that you are having a good evening.

Take care. Happy cooking.lol...

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   Posted 12/1/2011 7:20 PM (GMT -6)   
Karen and Greenbean.....The topic of cooking caught my eyes, of course anything with food catches my eyes..lol...
I used to love to cook but since pain took over. My husband does everything but cook, thank goodness I have a daughter...when she comes to town she will make up a bunch of meals an freeze them. otherwise we have things that are not so difficult to make. With winter here we have a lot of soups, stews and chili anything to warm up...lol

Well I hope you both have a great evening...

Bless you all, Amy


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   Posted 12/1/2011 9:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for the input Amy. Bless you too!!!

Yes, I love being able to get a container of soup, stew, or chili. I do try to make enough to freeze some. It saves on work for me. Plus is good on a cold day. I have chili in the freezer. Plus many containers of applesauce that I made this fall. Yum...

I hope that you have a good evening too.

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   Posted 12/2/2011 1:02 AM (GMT -6)   
Nearly midnight and I just finished the vegetable soup!! It's pretty dang tasty, especially for my first time. I am going to try making chili tomorrow for the gathering this weekend... Hopefully it goes well. I am going to freeze some things as well so that I can have easy meals too.

Seems like I've kept myself pretty occupied this week. My good friend told me tonifht that she is proud of me and that it seemed like I had really started living for myself. I tried to take on a new outlook last week, so I guess it's working. I think I am still very vulnerable, but progress is better than a standstill or regression.

Night everyone!
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