I can understand how people can't understand, because I remember what I was like and how I thought before I was diagnosed with Crohns, now everything seems different.
I used to think, anti depressants are for people that don't know how to deal with life... Now I am on them because I found myself in a rut the size of texas, not wanting to do anything or talk to anyone, and it is an awful feeling and something I now know that you can't 'will' away.
Before all this started, I was a cadet in a military academy, was very hardcore, tough, and I held every leadership position I could manage. I was in sports in HS and college. A year after graduation the CD hit me really hard and since then I haven't had any motivation to do much of anything. I was booted from the Navy on a medical, and now I am probably going to lose my current job as well. So I guess you could say I know what it is like to feel depressed now, and without meds I don't think I could possibly shake it.
If you had asked me about this topic 3 years ago I would have said " Thats BS" or "Im tougher than that, I can handle it" But I realized just a few weeks ago when I broke down crying to my mother that life is just not that simple anymore.
I think your family will understand you eventually. My folks are starting to understand what CD has done to me, including the depression. It takes time though, and hopefully soon you will be okay, and the meds or therapy will work for you. I hope the meds work for me, I am not very good at talking to people so the therapy might be a wash... But I will try since my doctor suggested it. I know that having chronic illness, surgery, all while trying to keep your job and please your spouse has been alot for me- talking about it is all well and good, but it is a physical depression as well as mental.
Anyways, I am ranting now. Good luck to you.
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