Well . . . I can tell you MY experience . . . my husband didn't 'understand', but he was supportive of me getting some help. But, my mom just thought I could 'will myself' to do more and to feel better. By nature, I have always been a very happy, positive person . . . but when depression hits it changes everything. Anyway . . . way after I was feeling better and more able to cope with a discussion like this, I explained it like this:
I feel like I am down in a deep, dark well. No ladder, no rope, no blanket, no pillow, just a deep dark well. You and everyone else around me keep walking back and forth up above and occassionally yell down at me, "hey, Rosie, . . . you are in a hole . . . you should climb out and come up here with the rest of us!" and then I say, "I have no ladder or rope, please help me!" . . . but nobody hears . . . they just keep walking before they can realize that I REALLY DO NEED HELP.
Mom understood better from this story and it made her teary (I didn't mean for that to happen . . . Mom is the best!). But from that story she understood a little better how it is to be depressed.
Now . . . your meds and your counseling are the ladder and the rope. Ta daaaa
Especially men will understand a 'word picture' better than a definition. So try a story that your family can relate to. If it makes sense, you are welcome to use my story.
I sure hope this helps a little.
P.S. Make sure you discuss your thoughts of suicide with your doctor or counselor. Thinking about it, even just a little, is a big red flag that you should get some advice from a professional. If you'd rather be annonymus there are suicide hot lines in the phone book and on the web. We really care about you here, but we are not trained for dealing with things like that.
I'm glad you are posting . . . it helps me, and others.
In His Grip,
UCTD (Undifferentiated Connective Tissue Disease),
Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, Depression, GI Probs, High BP, Glucose Intolerance
I have no medical training.
The message above is my sincere attempt to share with you. You are now my friend. Thanks for being here.
Post Edited (AlwaysRosie) : 4/6/2005 10:30:56 PM (GMT-6)