I think you are right to talk to your doctor, Mapletree. What your husband is doing has obviously become an addiction, and it rightly is affecting the sanctity of your marriage in your heart. It's a shame for this to happen to you as a newly wed or at any time in a marriage, honestly.
Frankly, ****ography appeals to the lower levels of sexual activity and doesn't indicate strong principles of spirituality regarding love. I agree with the moderator that many men may participate in that kind of thing, just as many people are addicted to drugs or alcohol, but that doesn't make it a pleasant environment for someone who is the innocent victim of the addict's envelopment in a destructive habit.
You are being given very gentle advice for calmness and helpfulness.
I tend to see your problem as a more serious and destructive one and think you are making a very wise choice to talk to a professional about
it. I even question your husband's advice to you to just forget about
it. Obviously, he does not regard your feelings with depth at this point.
Take care of you first, now, Mapletree.
I enjoyed your posts. Let the forum members know how you get along, please.
With best wishes for your strengthening through therapy and wise
Post Edited (It's Genetic) : 12/5/2011 9:08:10 PM (GMT-7)