Not in my house. Baby boomer here. Italian Catholic family so dad worked 2 jobs and Mom stayed home. First, my brother was born with a disease that killed him a week before his 18th b'day. Mom was his soul caregiver. My parents chose NOT to put him in a home or a rehab. It broke their hearts just to visit one. I got hand-me-down clothes from my older sisters and if we got 2 gifts under the tree at Christmas, that was saying something. I started working at age 15 and paid my mom 40$ a month that she put away for a rainy day. I also had to care for my baby sister who my mom had at age 41. I was mortified! Nothing came easy to us. There were 5 of us and we all worked and did chores at home.
Rosie, when I got married I swore that my kids would have the best of everything. My daughters had just that. I hand made their clothes including mine and my X husbands shirts. Then when we split, my daughters got the very best clothes and tennis shoes. ($30 tennis shoes was a lot 20 yrs ago). My current husband, their step-father supported them as well as myself. $60 a week for child support wasn't cutting it. We gave them freedom so they wouldn't have to lie to us, we gave them space so they didn't feel like a prisoner in their own home and we bought a new home so they could have their own rooms. We designed it ourselves. When they turned 18, they each got a car. They wrecked the cars and got their step-fathers insurance cancelled and then we realized that was that. They had to buy their own cars and had to work, full time in the summer and part-time after school and on weekends during the school year. I realized that if they didn't earn things on their own, they would flip-flop through life thinking that we owed them something. I learned and so did they. They are noth mothers and wives and VERY responsible. Thank God it wasn't too late.
The moral to this story is NOT to hand things to your kids on a silver platter and let them know they have to assume responsibility for their own actions or needs and wants. In the end, they will come to appreciate it much more. In turn, I hope they hand down the same lessons to their children.