WE NEVER LEARNED HOW TO BE FRUSTRATED

Just a thought . . .

I am not sure of the ages of most members here. . . but for those of us who were raised in a two income family and had lots of 'stuff' growing up . . . and we didn't have to earn money to pay for that 'stuff'. . . we never learned how to plan, save, WAIT, to have 'stuff' (or equally important . . learn how to be frustrated and do without). Well, that spills over into adulthood, when there is no one around to make things better. . . and then we're left to learn how to enjoy the wait, plan ahead, save, and THEN have the 'stuff' IF we can ever save enough to buy the 'stuff'.

I think this causes a lot of trouble for young adults, including maxing out credit cards and then suffering the overwhelming task of trying to manage the debt . . . which spills over into ruining relationships, etc. etc. etc.

No need to respond. . . just thinking out loud.

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In His Grip,

AlwaysRosie
Psalms: 139

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Got a good point.


Curley.........
a.k.a.Mela...........

Very true. My husband was opposite though. He grew up with 4 other brothers and sisters in a one bedroom apartment. When he finally got his first credit card, he wanted to get the stuff that he never could have and got into a lot of financial trouble. It took 10 years pulling himself out of the hole. It seems that he never had the discipline to save because saving money was not an option for his family. Their money went right from their paycheck to the bills with none to spare. I guess it works both ways.

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Hmmm....I seem to have the opposite problem.  My friends all tell me I'm "cheap".  My parents both made good money when I was growing up and I always had everything I needed and usually everything I wanted too.  But for some reason, I can even remember worrying about money when I was a little kid, like when I was about 6 years old, worrying how I was going to pay for college.  Well, I ended up getting scholarships that payed for my college and I saved every penny that I've ever made since my first job in high school and have a nice safety net in the bank and I'm still constantly worrying about money.  I'm always scared to death that there will be some huge disaster and I'll need all of it.  I never buy anything for myself, I avoid going out with my friends because I don't want to even pay for a movie, and all of my socks have holes in them.  I guess nobody's perfect.

 Not in my house. Baby boomer here. Italian Catholic family so dad worked 2 jobs and Mom stayed home. First, my brother was born with a disease that killed him a week before his 18th b'day. Mom was his soul caregiver. My parents chose NOT to put him in a home or a rehab. It broke their hearts just to visit one. I got hand-me-down clothes from my older sisters and if we got 2 gifts under the tree at Christmas, that was saying something. I started working at age 15 and paid my mom 40$ a month that she put away for a rainy day. I also had to care for my baby sister who my mom had at age 41. I was mortified! Nothing came easy to us. There were 5 of us and we all worked and did chores at home.

Lefty . . . your last paragraph is key!!! Right on!

My topic starter was actually about the geration growing up with my kids. I was raised in a family with 9 children and every penny had to speak twice! Mom made much of our clothes and then I learned to sew and made my own. My children were given responsibilities and had to earn money to buy a bicycle or a car and insurance etc. If they abused an item, they had to earn enough to pay for it (we would give them modest paying jobs around the house). We just thought it was good way for them to learn the value of money.

But when I see what many people that age have to go through because their parents handed everything to them . . . it makes me want to cry. I just thought that the whole thing carries through to adults acting like children because they don't know how to handle frustration. I just thought it could be helpful to those in that category knew where some of their inability to cope might be stemming from.

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In His Grip,

AlwaysRosie
Psalms: 139

^{UCTD (Undifferentiated Connective Tissue Disease),}

_{Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, Depression, GI Probs, High BP, Glucose Intolerance}

 

^{I have no medical training.} 

^{The message above is my sincere attempt to share with you.  You are now my friend.  Thanks for being here.}