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   Posted 12/19/2011 9:29 AM (GMT -6)   
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bayoub2
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   Posted 12/19/2011 9:44 AM (GMT -6)   
well, one good thing...there will be a special spot in Heaven for you, and the rest of them, wel...lol

They say God doesn't give us more than we can handle, but I don't beleieve that...I think he gives the strong ones MORE than they can handle because they will do what is right and make themselves even stronger, but it is a journeyof incredible difficulty with lots of anger and self doubt and why me?

I do think reacting to yr sister by NOT reacting is absolutely the best way to go...it will really get her goat when she can't get a rise out of you...she sounds jealous, guilty, and selfish. Who needs that toxin in their lives

You mention treatment resistant depression-do you take any meds? I have great luck with new meds for 1-2 months and then they tank and I end up in a psych ward changing meds...I believe mine is treatment resistant as far as meds but counseling can help-sounds likeyou could use a good vent...we sare always here, drop in any time

Maggie
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   Posted 12/19/2011 10:02 AM (GMT -6)   
(((((hugs)))))

Here is your virtual hug. I agree with Maggie, you will be blessed for what you are doing. I would make sure that you have complete control over your mother as nobody else is helping you. Are you her guardian or conservator? You should really become them for her. That way you have control over her finances and nobody else can touch them. I went through this years ago taking care of my mother. Everybody in the family wanted a say, but nobody would help me take care of her. I got coguardianship and full conservatorship. If you become a guardian, you should try to be conservator too. And you can do this all in probate court. You shouldn't need a lawyer unless other family members fight you. So think about becoming her guardian.

I am sorry that you have to do this all on your own. Your daughters are getting old enough to help you around the house so you are not so overwhelmed. I would give them some simple chores to do to help you.

Keep posting and know that we all care about you.

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Jim1969
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   Posted 12/19/2011 10:53 AM (GMT -6)   
The only thing I can add on top of what has been said is to talk with your Mom's doctor about you needing help in caring for her. He can then work with whatever kind of insurance your Mom has to bring in some kind of aid and/or nurse depending on what kind of assistance is needed for at least a few hours a week to give you a break and/or to help you out.

Most if not all insurance companies are willing to pay for assistance up to the level where it would be more cost effective to have a person in a nursing home.
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   Posted 12/19/2011 12:23 PM (GMT -6)   
You are so welcome Purplesky,

I know it is hard. Just keep her best interest at heart and it will work out. I hope she isn't difficult to handle. It is a chore even when they aren't. It is a lot of responsibility. Almost like having a baby at a point, but much bigger. You will be blessed, and this will work out for whatever is best. I am sorry family members are making it difficult. I had to fight mine in court.

No fun...

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bayoub2
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   Posted 12/19/2011 12:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey purplesky thanks for the love-am having a bad day and you made ME feel better...isn't it beautiful how it comes full circle.

I hope you keep posting-you sound like fun and well grounded

Have a good day
Maggie
"We never realize how strong we are, until being strong is the only thing left"
Major Depressive Disorder, ptsd, fibromyalgia, chronic pain, l3/4, L4/5 gone, bursitis arthritis sciatica

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