It is ok by me that you shared a little what is going on in your life! I understand the comfort you will lose when that friend leaves. I am sorry that she is moving :(
During a lot of this process, I felt like my ex was treating me the same way she treated the ex before me. Like me, when ex left her too she just started ignoring her, no explanations. At this time, ex and I had just become friends. She would talk to me about the relationship problems, but when she ended things, she was perfectly ok. I thought she was rude for not explaining herself to the girl she had dated for so long, but I hadn't heard any nice stories about the girl, so I figured the end had been coming between them for awhile. Apparently, my ex was cheated on alot and financially and emotionally abused by her, so everyone was glad to see her get rid of her.
Anyway, just like now, ex cut herself off from anyone and anything that would know something about her. I thought it was one thing that she was rude to me and our mutual friends, but now she's just rude to everyone in general. When she sees people that she knows and/or used to work with, she only waves from a distance. I got down about this because I was comparing myself to the old ex. I knew that I didn't treat her the same, so why was she treating me like someone she disliked so much??
It's not me. I didn't deserve any of her behavior and quite honestly, I don't think anyone she dishes it to deserves it. She's a pathetic creature with no consideration or genuine concern for anyone but herself. She's the victim, all day everyday. Do I think she's happy in the moment? Yep. No doubt about it. Do I think she's truly happy? Nope. I'm not happy right now, but I'm working on the real stuff, the things that will heal and allow me to find pure happiness again (I'm not sad though, just kinda "blah").
It made me very angry yesterday that she had the nerve to refer to me as "her girl" and inquire about me to that close friend. REALLY ANGRY. I'm not HER GIRL and I never will be. She doesn't really care about me. My life or well being is none of her concern. She cannot maintain relationships with friends and family... I highly doubt an intimate relationship will work forever if she can't maintain the basic ones. In the meantime though, it is very frustrating that she has so much "fun" while I pick up the pieces of my life that were thrown around by her selfishness.
I am thankful I get to go home this week. I really love being around my family, even if it is dysfunctional and stressful.