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greenbean885
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   Posted 12/27/2011 9:17 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello all,

I was so glad to be able to spend time at home with my family for a few days. Now, it is back to the grind of work... woohoo! I have a couple thoughts that I just needed to get out because I don't want them staying in my brain so that I can obsess over them... so here goes.

I feel like the Paxil has started helping me a bit, but it either is still "fresh" in my system or I do need the Xanax like the doctor suggested. Whenever I take the exit from the interstate back into this small town, I feel like the life is sucked out of me & I get very shaky. I still find I'm obsessing a little more than I'd call normal (though normal is such a weird word) so maybe it just takes more time?

I have had to postpone my CASA training. I have already missed a training session due to therapy and our session tonight was cancelled as well. The last session is (of course) my next counseling session and my mental health is priority right now. I am a little worried about this because I had planned on CASA taking up much of my free time.. Now, I won't train till spring.

I worry about losing my job a lot too, which is quite silly. I perform well and have never had any threats of losing my job; I think it is the anxiety.

All of my things from ex are still at a friend's house. I feel like I can't bring myself to get them... I don't know why I feel this way, it's just like I don't want to see it. I already found the hurtful note she returned to me & I guess I just don't want to be reminded of all the other things. Just thinking about it gives me anxiety, so I wanted to get that out too.

When I was at home, I didn't think about my ex at all. I liked it alot! I saw old friends, had laughs, actually SLEPT! The minute I realized I had to come back, stomach issues started to kick in and I was begging my parents to help find excuses I could stay. It's so silly... I'm not like that at all! My dad says that he could tell my OCD was a bit better but that he also thought it was being at home, around people that "even me out" and keep me busy. I am less & less concerned (more trusting I hope) that Karma will come around and get her.

I know that is not a good way of thinking, and that worries me too. I don't want to have ill wishes upon someone, but when you get treated like I did, it's nearly impossible to find that strength. I remember Pope John Paul II was able to forgive a man who tried to assassinate him... what a great example of forgiveness. I'm working on it, but it's taking some time. Just remind me that she isn't happy please. That happy people don't act like she has/is & that they don't turn to drugs like she is. It makes me feel less crazy to hear it from others. Like I'm not telling myself BS.

A friend of mine who was getting married in October now found out she is pregnant and has pushed the wedding up until April. I am supposed to be in this wedding, which is great, but I should have hit the gym 6 months ago for an April wedding! Also, that gives me less time to get the money together for the expenses of a bridesmaid... anxiety over weight & money! And I'm a little bit jealous that she is younger than me and will be married & have a child... how silly, right???

Overall, it was a good break and I am going to do my best to remain hopeful & positive. I hope that getting out my anxious thoughts will help with the feelings.

Courtney

It's Genetic
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   Posted 12/27/2011 10:40 AM (GMT -6)   
The most poignant part of this to me is that you were driving back to a small town that you felt was "sucking the life out of you". That may be the reason you're having difficulty getting over this thing, Courtney. Please talk about those feelings with your psychiatrist.

I know your job forces you to be where you are, but there are other jobs out there (though this may not be the time to seek one) in  another area where you might feel better about it all. Getting away helped; I agree.

Keep up the counselling as long as you are living where you are and take the prescribed medications if your psychiatrist advises you to do so, please.

Take care.

It's Genetic

greenbean885
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   Posted 12/27/2011 11:42 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks I.G. You're right, the job and apartment is what keeps me here. For my age, my salary is just too good to leave behind. My therapist and I have acknowledged that I am a very social person, so I am trying to think of things I can get involved in around here that will allow me to be in a group setting. With it being such a small town, there isn't much for someone my age (the awkward age between college and adulthood) so I'll have to keep searching. Maybe there is something in another city nearby...

I have many resolutions for the new year and this week I plan to reflect on them. You know, really get my head straight for what's ahead in 2012.

I am very thankful I am working through many of my issues sooner rather than later though. Thank you for all of your support.

getting by
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   Posted 12/27/2011 3:25 PM (GMT -6)   
I really don't have much in the line of advice. But wanted to tell you not to set your goals too high. Take them one at a time, and break them up if you need to. If we set too many goals, it may become unattainable. You have come a long way. I am glad that you are realizing your anxiety and seeing it for just what it is. I take xanax, it helps a lot. And you can take them as needed too. Which makes that convenient.

If you lived in a larger town, I don't think your ex would get to you as much. I know you don't mean to wish ill on her. And yes, karma does come back around. And no, I don't believe she is happy either. If she was, she wouldn't be altering her moods.

I look forward to the time when you can put her behind you. It doesn't make you a bad person because you can't yet, it just means that the wounds haven't healed yet. Take comfort in knowing that you are getting there though. One day at a time.

I hope that you are having a good day.

Take care Courtney,

Hugs, Karen
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greenbean885
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   Posted 12/27/2011 3:35 PM (GMT -6)   
I think that is great advice Karen, I will definitely break up my goals. Last year, I wanted to lose 30 pounds and complete my undergrad thesis on time. I knew I could do both and I did. This week, I think it would be a good idea to narrow goals down and give myself reminders on how to attain those goals. Like "Take care of myself" and then ways that I can do this. Throughout the year, I can add to the list.

You all are very wise and understanding. I am lucky to have found such great friends.

I did forget to tell you... a friend got me a crock pot for Christmas! So now, you will have to share crock pot recipes with me pretty please!

getting by
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   Posted 12/27/2011 3:46 PM (GMT -6)   
There is so much you can do with a crockpot. I cook roasts and everything in mine. Especially in the summer when I don't want to use the oven. I will be happy to share recipes with you... And I am sure that others will too. That was a nice gift. I am sure that you will enjoy it for years to come.

I have much faith in you Courtney. You are wise and sensible.

Hugs, Karen
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