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greenbean885
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   Posted 1/2/2012 10:10 AM (GMT -6)   
Happy New Year everyone! I hope that everyone stayed safe and enjoyed the festivities.

I had my date on Friday & I thought it went well, but there are already a few red flags that have gone up. This guy is about 4 years older than me (which I'm ok with) but I think since he is nearly 27, he is overly ready to settle down. Within the first date, he asked about marriage, brought up his income, and mentioned multiple times that I would fit in well with his family. I'm really trying to remain open minded, but I think that was a bit too much & overwhelming for a first date. On top of that, he kept asking me if I "honestly thought things would work out between us"... HOLD ON, WHAT!?!? I don't know, maybe I've been out of the game too long or maybe my red flag alerts are correct....

Aside from that, I rang in the New Year taking new adventures. I wasn't able to go hunting, but we did go frogging until 4 am! We didn't catch anything, but I had so much fun walking through the water. We saw gators, owls, deer, skunks, beavers & rabbits! Talk about new experience!! It was the most fun I've had in a long time and I think I'm addicted to having fun now :)

This year, I'd like to really stick to my standards in regards to everything, but especially friends & dating. There are just certain things I don't like & I don't have to compromise my happiness just because I am afraid of being perceived as "mean". I know I'm not mean and I think anyone who knows me well knows that isn't true.

So, there's my update... having fun! Oh yes, "Voldemort" (recently known as my ex haha) contacted two of my friends (they are sisters). She then called the girl who I have been traveling to see once a week (the one who works for my therapist). It only bothered me because even before our break up, she rarely spoke to them & she knows how close I am with both of the girls and their family. I don't like the way she treated them when I was dating her and I definitely don't like her now. I know though, that it is not my decision or control should they respond to her... it's just still annoying. She needs to keep her messy life and drug habits away from me and my friends. Please and thank you :]

Hope to hear from ya'll!

Courtney

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   Posted 1/2/2012 10:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Whoa!!! That guy is moving at warp speed Bean!!! Better put the brakes on that one-lol!!

I'm sure your friends will stay on your side..they probably felt awkward when she called and I'm sure they are hip to her tricks by now. Don't worry about that

Glad you could go frog-gigging...the marsh and bayous here are so full of wildlife. We have ospreys and eagles and a little owl at 4am every morning- and all those other great critters-glad you had so much fun.

It sounds like a great start to New Year's for you. We had some family with LOTS of food (boudin and deer sausage, gumbo etc) over to watch the Saints kick butt again-Yah!!!!

Happy new year to you dear Bean
Maggie
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   Posted 1/2/2012 1:46 PM (GMT -6)   
First of all, what is "boudin"? I saw you mentioned it more than once Maggie, it must be good whatever it is.

Courtney, I am glad a red flag went up for you. This is so immature on his part. You just had one date. Has he known you a long time or something? I am glad that you are stepping back a minute to check this out.

It sounds like you had a whole lot of fun and I am so happy for you. I have heard frog gigging is a blast. And if I am not mistaken, done at night? It sounds like you got to see a lot of wild life too. I use to see that when we lived farther into the woods. I fed the birds and got all kinds of other animals coming in too. It was so cool. I even had a family of fox move in near me. There was a mom, dad and four kits. I use to watch them every moring come out and stretch and yawn. IT was so cute. I even had a black bear once. I use to film the animals and watch them most of the day.

I am so happy that your new year is starting out good. Ignore your ex. She isn't happy and it is obvious she is very curious about what you are doing with your life. You are getting on with it and that is the best thing.

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   Posted 1/2/2012 2:26 PM (GMT -6)   
enjoy life. good red flag. have fun like you are. cheers, jamie
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greenbean885
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   Posted 1/2/2012 6:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks everyone! Some days are still really tough... This evening is a little hard so I'm just taking it easy.

I think my anxiety has been doing better, it seems to only "flare up" now instead of being constantly miserable so that is more enjoyable.

I have so many fresh lemons and nothing to do with them... Juice them?

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   Posted 1/2/2012 7:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Put them in the fridge. Use them for lemon water.

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