Well, this isn't really an advice column it is a place where people who are depressed come to get encouragement.
I can offer you one bit of advice, but it sounds like you are already onto that. My advice is that you draw clear boundaries for yourself and for the friend. There is a line which a friend should not step over. If you LEND money, it should be clear to the friend that she needs to repay you and in what time frame she needs to repay. She may have thought you GAVE her the money. If you buy her something, she should know if it is a gift or a loan.
I would always favor talking to someone before losing a friend.
I hope this helps.
In His Grip,
UCTD (Undifferentiated Connective Tissue Disease),
Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, Depression, GI Probs, High BP, Glucose Intolerance
I have no medical training.
The message above is my sincere attempt to share with you. You are now my friend. Thanks for being here.