It's a case of "looking for love in all the wrong places," Elfenprincess.
There are many good, kind, gentle people in the world who would feel that they were disobeying their conscience if they tried to be mean, unkind, pushy, domineering, etc.
You have to be really secure within yourself before you are prepared to meet the people who can be the friends you want. If you have very high standards, as you appear to have, you must look for friends in places where high standards are often found--in many places; they just don't appear to you because you're not sure how to know them as people of integrity immediately. (None of us are! But some are better than others with people intelligence.)
Stay away from slippery places in life. Watch the calm, quiet people who are thinkers.
Life will eventually teach you that if you let it. Don't give up on people; they need you and you need them. Just keep practicing your basic inner principles, and you will find the ones who are compatible.
I think that's it: the ones who are compatible. You'll get there; just keep working. Thank goodness you are one who is alert and careful. Those are two important qualities.
I enjoyed your thread.
Post Edited (It's Genetic) : 1/7/2012 10:38:14 PM (GMT-7)