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elfenprincess
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   Posted 1/7/2012 10:29 PM (GMT -6)   
Relationships where one or both people aren't understood, or treated badly, shallow friends, people who just use others.
Everywhere I go I feel like I don't fit in...and I truly don't. I know sometimes this can be a good thing as I've never wanted to be like everyone else, but sometimes I just want to have people I can go to, who I fully know and understand and we can comfort each other. I haven't had a friend like that in person for a long time.

I hung out with an old friend (we dated a long time ago) who had just moved back to town and it was fun and seemed like we naturally hit it off for a while, which is rare for me. At the end I took him back to his place and he started making me uncomfortable if you know what I mean. And the dumbest line ever. We were talking about how he lives his life in the moment and then said "what would you do if you knew you were going to die tomorrow?" I said I'd do alot of things differently and probably go crazy and be reckless haha. But then he says "well you know what I'd do..then tries to kiss me and get me to do things with him. Eh. Really? We're just seeing each other for the first time in forever, and now this. And when I told him to stop he said "well maybe you should leave." I then said "wow, you're kicking me out now?!" and he apologized and said no you can stay. Seemed rude though. But on the other hand I have known him forever and to be a decent guy aside from this moments. The girls I have had as friends have not been much better. I know not all guys are like this and not all girls are catty and mean, but I'm having a hell of a time finding people who I can stand to be around or I'm compatible with.

It's Genetic
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   Posted 1/7/2012 11:27 PM (GMT -6)   
It's a case of "looking for love in all the wrong places," Elfenprincess.

There are many good, kind, gentle people in the world who would feel that they were disobeying their conscience if they tried to be mean, unkind, pushy, domineering, etc.

You have to be really secure within yourself before you are prepared to meet the people who can be the friends you want. If you have very high standards, as you appear to have, you must look for friends in places where high standards are often found--in many places; they just don't appear to you because you're not sure how to know them as people of integrity immediately.  (None of us are! But some are better than others with people intelligence.)

Stay away from slippery places in life. Watch the calm, quiet people who are thinkers.

Life will eventually teach you that if you let it. Don't give up on people; they need you and you need them. Just keep practicing your basic inner principles, and you will find the ones who are compatible.

I think that's it: the ones who are compatible. You'll get there; just keep working. Thank goodness you are one who is alert and careful. Those are two important qualities.

I enjoyed your thread.
 
Take care.
 
It's Genetic

Post Edited (It's Genetic) : 1/7/2012 10:38:14 PM (GMT-7)


getting by
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   Posted 1/8/2012 6:07 AM (GMT -6)   
I agree with IG, you need to change the people you are around. Maybe start going to church and meet people there. Not saying all people there are nice, but I would feel that the majority of them would be. Find people in places you like to go. Such as coffee shops, book stores, not bars and places like that.

It isn't hard to do, it just takes a little time. Kind of like starting over. You will make good friends. I think that this guy was just attracted to you. And I think you are fortunate he didn't push any farther and left. That was very respectful on his part. But next time you might not be so lucky. So be careful in choosing who you take home with you.

I hope that this helps some. It is disenheartening when we are disappointed by people, but it happens.

Take care my friend.

Hugs, Karen
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elfenprincess
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   Posted 1/9/2012 1:14 AM (GMT -6)   
I do need different people around me...I've tried groups and classes (church hasn't done much for me as I'm not religious, but I did used to go to a Unitarian church) and I guess it's just hard for me to meet and connect with people. I'm really shy. And when I do find friends things usually fall apart for one reason or another...I have a hard time keeping up with people and they don't understand when I get depressed and antisocial. I suppose that's why I gravitate toward other people who are unstable because they know what I"m going through...but then we become a double edged sword! It's tricky. I wish I didn't feel so empty and lonely all the time.

getting by
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   Posted 1/9/2012 9:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Things will get better elf. Don't give up. You need to surround yourself with healthy people. I know down people understand, but sometimes that brings you farther down. Keep trying. You are a good person and loved here.

Keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
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elfenprincess
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   Posted 1/9/2012 2:18 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks <3

FoX123
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   Posted 1/12/2012 12:03 PM (GMT -6)   
Going through the exact same thing over there...for like year and half. Dont know how bad it is on your side, but I have totally no 'real' friends, yeah I do speak with people at school but nothing else. Its hard to find good friends if you're shy or depressed like hell in my case.I know that. I found one good friend on the internet, I meet him every 2 weeks. I'd try to meet people online if I was you.

elfenprincess
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   Posted 1/13/2012 2:50 AM (GMT -6)   
Yeah it is really hard :( I"m glad there are forums like this. I might try to meet more people online...
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