Can't seem to focus - overwhelemd

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   Posted 1/11/2012 2:12 PM (GMT -6)   
I usually don't post in this forum but I feel like I've got to talk to someone - my life the last few years has been less than stellar, but lately I feel like things are crashing down on me. I broke up with my boyfriend, which was a good thing to do, but has been difficult for me because I don't really have anyone to rely on or talk to anyone (but we really were not working). Six days from now is the first anniversary of my dad's death from cancer which is bringing everything back for me. I had to leave work due to health problems and I am going to school online. My grades have plummeted - I've always had good grades but I'm barely passing now and can't focus enough to do my schoolwork and past due projects. I feel like I need to talk to someone or get advice about how to focus and how to actually get things done. The closer to the 1 year of my dad's death it gets I feel the worse I'm getting and the more reclusive I'm getting. Does anyone have any advice?

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   Posted 1/11/2012 4:47 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Leeriesan,

Welcome to the depression forum. Have you thought about going to counseling? Doing talk therapy? It really does help.

I know you would probably want to try to do this on your own. Tha most I can tell you is to stay focused on what you are doing at that time. Try not to think about anything other than the task at hand. It is hard, it takes practice. I had to go though all the motions in my mind. No matter what I was doing. I do meditation to help too. Try to take life one day at a time and focus on the now. It would do you good to get a book or go to counseling. I think with all the stress that you are under it warrents counseling. It would help you to get though it all.

Do keep posting. Others will be on to share their opinions. And maybe their ways of coping. I am sorry that you are going though health problems. It never helps. But you are going to make it. Stay optimistic. We will help you the best that we can.

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   Posted 1/11/2012 6:47 PM (GMT -6)   
i walk, use music and clean, when i can. but music and walking helps me. with much healing and prayerful compassion to you. jamie.



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   Posted 1/11/2012 9:14 PM (GMT -6)   
My suggestion to you is to NOT try to forget about your Dad's passing or focus on something else or do something else so it can come and go more quietly.

Rather my suggestion is to take time to acknowledge your Dad's life. Do something to celebrate his life. This can be anything from fixing his favorite meal to making a special photo album or scrapbook. Write a letter to him, write a poem, put together a slide show on your computer, make a donation in his name. These are just suggestions. Do whatever feels right to you and spend some time remembering him when he was alive and healthy.

It is normal and fine to mourn the death of people we love but it is also fine to honor their life, recall the good times and smile or laugh at the fond memories.
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   Posted 1/12/2012 12:14 AM (GMT -6)   
I wouldn't say I know exactly how you feel but one thing I found that helped was just posting in this forum, as you type up how you feel you may actually start discovering something, may not be much but it's something. Everyone here is willing he help and listen.
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