Curious about pychotherapy appt.

I see a psychologist for my therapy. The only time I go to the psychiatrist is for medication management. I have been in your shoes about opening up my feelings. It took me a very long time to be "honest" about my feelings with my therapist. I would talk about things but not go into detail. The vital part of all of this is to get comfortable with your therapist. We have to learn to trust them before we can open up and believe me it won't be on your first visit. At least it wasn't for me. If you ever have a feeling that you cannot trust him/her or that you don't have any chemistry with him/her than it would be a good idea to find another. I have gone through a few until I found one that I could really feel comfortable opening up to. It can be frustrating but to be honest, I don't know where I would be today without my therapist.

Hi all
The posts have been interesting - I'm awaiting an appointment with a councellor via my Dr. Lord alone knows how long that will take to come thro, especially as I discontinued councelling after 2 sessions previously. As D-rule says I was unable to open up to the councellor - at that stage I was unable to admit to myself how bad things had become and I was terrified that if I spoke about my feelings the dam would burdt. In hindsight this was a bad move. Perhaps if I could have spoken I could have avoided the pain I inflicted on others later.
I wonder what you think of this - I work in a setting where councelling is available for staff free of charge. Do you think it would be helpful to tap into this while I await other appointment? I know that the councellors at work are very concientous and stick to strict confidentiality guidelines-just worried how this could affect my working relationship with them.
Really feel ready to start this process soon as I need to discuss the feelings strirred up over the past few months as I don't thinkl I can move on until these are dealt with.

To update on progress - re-mortage completed and debts now under control. Return to work tommorrow(Wed) for 2 weeks on half days. Then go to Tenerife with hubby for a week holiday (monies supplied by sons and friends) then back to work full time.

Will keep in touch

Love and hugs

Stumpytroll

AlwaysRosie, I can definitely relate to writing things down and I also do that to with my hubby. My husband is a lawyer and very good at what he does. So good in fact that he always has me tripping all over my words so by the time our conversation is over is when I realize that I didn't get my point across.

My therapist has me do writing excercises that are designed to make me think about my feelings. I agree that it is very therapeudic. Thanks for adding that, I forgot all about that.

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Randy . . . what a true statement. If we need affirmation (and everyone does) that would make it tempting to say what the therapist wants to hear. We really need to make ourselves vulnerable to gain any benefit from counseling.

Thanks for the update D-Rule. I hope you are able to get comfortable with the therapist. Try and be honest and open. Glad you got thru that first appt. which can be kinda scary.

I agree betagirl.  It is very important that you feel comfortable with both.  I was lucky that the first psychologist and I had good repoire.  I have been seeing him over 3 and a half years.

Psychiatrists a different story.... Meds have been hard to find the right combination.  I have seen three different psychiatrist in the last three and a half years.  I just didn't feel very comfortable with the first two.  I am working with one now that is a better fit for me.  She seems more compassionate to me.  Intially I felt a little guilty about switching but I am the paying client so I should make that choice right?