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Mariposa5
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   Posted 1/16/2012 1:18 PM (GMT -6)   
I feel like I need a therapist or someone to hear me without judgment, I married my husband 11 years ago and about 8 years ago he started to see a doctor because he had some mental issues, a family member told me that my husband had told him that he was diagnosed schizophrenic so believed it was true. We moved to another state and after a good couple of years he started to feel bad again and look for a pdoc and was put on some pill, I trying to help him to get well told his doctor that he was sz and was put on zyprexa, this gave him diabetes so was switched to gedoen and then abilify, my husband stopped all medications when he was called to work because he felt he couldn't work when medicated; it wasn't that bad, but after some time he felt that he needed some meds again and look for another doctor, I was involved by his therapist and again I told them that my husband was sz, without making any tests the pshy at the center gave him seroquel, all this time my husband's health kept deteriorating. When the med didn't work they increased the dose to 200 mg, after 6 months taking the medicine he got so bad that he admitted himself to a mental hospital; there he was diagnosed with major depression and anxiety disorders, I couldn't believe it, all this time thinking that he was sz and now they say that he is not. He always told me that he was not sz and I taught that he was in denial, so either this person lied to me or it was a misunderstood, I feel so guilty for what I put my husband trough. He is now in a hospital getting off this evil med (seroquel) I think that his symptoms are caused by the withdraw for what I've found in the internet but I think I harmed my husband enough already so I won't say anything, I just want to have my husband back, I know he could have died and feel so bad. I wish I had done things differently like getting a second opinion, I hope my story helps someone somehow.

Jim1969
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   Posted 1/16/2012 1:37 PM (GMT -6)   
Don't beat yourself up too much. It is entirely possible that your husband was misdiagnosed, and even if you were given and passed on bad information the other doctors who just took your word for it without looking into it themselves share a big chunk of the blame.

Yes mistakes were made, but instead of letting guilt overwhelm you learn from them and move forward.

One thing I would suggest is that you have your husband authorize you to receive any and all medical information about him with his doctors. This way if you have questions, concerns, etc you can talk directly with his doctors about it.

Another thing is to work on developing good communication about any and all health issues. He needs to let you know what is going on and you should let him know about yourself. This way, in case one of you are approached by the other's doctor, you can provide well informed answers to any questions asked.

Anyway, it sounds like your husband is finally getting the help he really needs. Be thankful that he is and that things are not worse than they are.
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Mariposa5
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   Posted 1/16/2012 4:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you for your nice words, they made me have a good cry but I feel better now.

getting by
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   Posted 1/16/2012 6:27 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Mariposa5,

I just wanted to welcome you to the forum. I think Jim has given you some very good advice. Especially to not beat yourself up over this. You did what you thought was right at that time.

I am glad your husband is feeling better now, and that you are too. Keep posting, know that we all care.

Hugs, Karen
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Jim1969
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   Posted 1/16/2012 6:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Sometimes a good cry is like a good rain. It can make things feel clean and fresh.
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