Transitioning Back Home and Scared

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   Posted 1/19/2012 3:56 PM (GMT -6)   
I've been staying with my parents since I was diagnosed and now wanting to be independent again.  I packed up a few things of mine and came back to my apartment for the night and am scared all the old crying spells and stuff are going to start up again.  How did others of you transition back into a routine?  I felt safe at Mom and Dad's.  My apartment used to feel like my safe zone but doesn't.

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   Posted 1/19/2012 6:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Can you change the atmosphere of the apartment? Maybe some candles or things that you like to make it a pleasant experience? Try some meditation there and see how it goes. Try to have confidence that you are going to make it okay. Listen to some music that you like, or call a friend. You can do this. The more you do it the easier it will get.

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   Posted 1/19/2012 6:18 PM (GMT -6)   
Just take it one day, one moment at a time.

If your apartment is close to your parent's home then maybe start out with day trips to your own place. Spend just a few hours (or whatever amount of time you are comfortable with) to start and then build the amount of time you are there.

When you are ready to try an overnight stay ask one of your parents to spend the night, and then after a few nights ask a friend to stay with you at night for a few nights and then try a night on your own. If it goes really well then continue to stay by yourself, if it doesn't go so well have someone spend the night the next night and then go it along the night after that and keep building on it.
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   Posted 1/20/2012 3:15 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi there Ocean!

I'd agree with everyone else's advice. Trying hard to keep confidence in yourself is a big deal, and sometimes you just need to keep repeating to yourself (sometimes out loud!) that you can do this and you're capable of it.

I'd say that if I were in your shoes, I would try and keep in as much contact with my support groups as possible. By support groups I mean everyone that you trust and who supports you during tough spots. It sounds like your parents would be one such group, and maybe any mental health providers you are seeing--and this forum as well! Keep in contact with all of them and keep them updated on how you're feeling and doing from day to day. It's really important that you have this support while you're making such a big change in your life. You can make your home a 'safe zone' again, it just will take some settling in I think. Sometimes you need to ease into situations, and making sure you're letting your supporters know how you're dealing with things will help you in that goal.

Please keep us updated, and I wish you all the best! :)
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