Mom just diagnosed with cancer.. Equals bad for me

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Swim chick
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   Posted 1/25/2012 5:15 PM (GMT -6)   
My mom was just diagnosed with breast cancer. I am already depressed, dont have a dad or friend to talked to as they both died. Help me please

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   Posted 1/25/2012 6:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Swim,

I am so sorry to hear this. You must feel awful. Did they say what stage and how bad it is? Maybe a simple surgery can help. Try to find out specifics before you think the worst. Thsi might not be as bad as you think. I hope that it is not. I had surgery on my breast in 2000. I am doing fine. Find out more information.

Know that we are all here for you. You aren't alone in this. You have us for support.

Keep posting.

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   Posted 1/25/2012 6:33 PM (GMT -6)   
here for you, with healing compassion, jamie
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   Posted 1/25/2012 7:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks... The only reason why I'm worried is because I can't lose another person... I don't evn have my bffl anymore nor my dad so yeah.... But I don't know much about this...
Depression, anxiety, mom has cancer, dad is dead.....
All alone at home and at school...
It's always the darkest before dawn... Great quote

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   Posted 1/25/2012 8:10 PM (GMT -6)   
The more information you can obtain the better. You will need to find out her prognosis. Then you can know more as to what to expect. That way if it isn't bad, you will know. And if it is, you will know that you need a lot of support. Know that we are all here for you. I hope it isn't bad. And know that if it is, you need to concentrate on spending as much time with her as possible. This is where you want to make the most of every minute with her.

I lost many people in my life. It isn't easy. I have had my own scares too. But you can get through this. And we will be there to help you.

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   Posted 1/26/2012 1:20 AM (GMT -6)   
Hopefully the cancer has been caught early enough. The good news is that "early enough" is a lot later than it was just 10-20 years ago.

More people survive this today than they did just a decade ago.
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Swim chick
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   Posted 1/26/2012 7:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks. My mom hasn't told me yet, she just told me that and by accident. I don't think she wants me to worry. But I hope I can figure it out soon or I will become more scared.
Depression, anxiety, mom has cancer, dad is dead.....
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   Posted 1/26/2012 8:57 PM (GMT -6)   
Sure hope they caught it early, if so then it is treatable...so many blessings to you in hopes
it's treatable and that your mom will be fine, also many well wishes and prayers on this too...
Keep positive for your mom and you have all our prayers here with you...
when you find out please keep us posted as well as we do truly care...
Prayers, Blessings and well wishes and many many to your mom and you...
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   Posted 1/28/2012 7:57 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks so much and they caught the cancer later on, but they are treating it. :(
I went to my guidance counsler and she didn't believe me so she called my mom and my mom told her. Boy she was embarrassed. But I'm much more at peace now, not happy obviously but at peace. Thanks so much for your support.
Depression, anxiety, mom has cancer, dad is dead.....
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   Posted 1/28/2012 10:47 PM (GMT -6)   
It's very good that they are treating your mom, there is hope yet, keep hope
and make every moment with your mom a blessing...many many Prayers to you both...
and what your counselor did was very rude...and cruel in my opinion...
Keep us posted as we do care here...thinking of you...sending my shoulder for you to cry on
if you need it...sometimes a good cry can help...and we understand...
Prayers..
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   Posted 1/29/2012 12:26 AM (GMT -6)   
Swim chick....I am so sorry to hear about your mom however, there is alot to be hopeful for they have come so far in treatment for breast cancer. Sending you positive energy and keeping you in my prayer......

Bless you, Amy
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   Posted 1/29/2012 5:00 AM (GMT -6)   
me too. jamie.
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   Posted 1/29/2012 6:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Swim,

I can't believe that your counselor did that. Is there a reason that they wouldn't believe you? That is just plain rude as posted above...

I hope that your mom's cancer is treatable. Find out as much as you can about it. It is good to stay on top of things. I bought a book on cancer when I started having people I loved get it. It kept me on top of all things so that I understood what was going on. I have a friend with nonhodgkins lymphoma. He has been in remission for a long time. He is scared that it is going to come back. I told him to relax and enjoy the remission. I hope that he does. He is worrying needlessly about something he can't control. I guess though whenever he thinks things are fine, they find another lump. I am praying for your mom and him both.

One day at a time. That is all you can do. We are here for you.

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Swim chick
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   Posted 1/29/2012 7:59 AM (GMT -6)   
The reason why she wouldn't listen to me is because she thinks I lied to her about my dad dieing. She thinks I lie all the time but I don't. Why can't she just see that my life needs help? Thanks so much Chatetoux, getting by, jaimee, and sos007.
Depression, anxiety, mom has cancer, dad is dead.....
All alone at home and at school...
It's always the darkest before dawn... Great quote

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   Posted 1/29/2012 8:07 AM (GMT -6)   
Zoey,

I am glad that she knows now that you aren't lieing. Maybe she will be of more help for you now. I hope so, if not, change therapists. You deserve somebody good that is going to help you. I hope that this one comes around. Changing makes you have to go over everything all over again, but you need good support. So make sure she is giving that to you....

Take care friend.

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Swim chick
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   Posted 1/29/2012 7:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks so much. I did ask to switch school counslers but they said no. So I just live through it but I would love to switch
Depression, anxiety, mom has cancer, dad is dead.....
All alone at home and at school...
It's always the darkest before dawn... Great quote

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   Posted 1/30/2012 1:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Im so sorry for whatever your going through. Hope and pray that she gets better. Keep praying for her. When you feel a whole in your chest, go and pray out loud. You will feel much better. I do that all the time and it helps me. May you get peace. Keep us updated on how shes doing. LOts of love.

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   Posted 1/30/2012 3:49 PM (GMT -6)   
Have you thought about going to a mental health counselor? That would probably be the way to go if you feel you need it. Talk to your mom about it. She may have some resources for you. Or insurance depending on your age. Do you still live at home?

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Swim chick
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   Posted 1/30/2012 7:36 PM (GMT -6)   
Yeah I do karen. I also am seeing someone but it ain't that great of a time with her.
Depression, anxiety, mom has cancer, dad is dead.....
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   Posted 1/31/2012 6:46 PM (GMT -6)   
Just wanted to check in on you, you doing any better today...have
you thought about the journal like I mentioned??? Continued Prayers,
for you and your Mom...
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   Posted 1/31/2012 7:01 PM (GMT -6)   
You're not alone, even when you think you are, you need to change the shift of your thinking. My dad left me when I was a kid, I mean abandoned me, and my mom has got depression. I know it's not the same. But I'm also alone, I just go to college and don't have friends really. I just pray. I'll pray for you. And if you need someone to talk to, I'm here.

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   Posted 1/31/2012 8:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Chartreux, I am writing in a journal. Mohammedmuhi, thank you so much for those prays. I am feeling happier today, but my mom seems worse though she tries not to let it show.
Depression, anxiety, mom has cancer, dad is dead.....
All alone at home and at school...
It's always the darkest before dawn... Great quote

Chartreux
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   Posted 2/1/2012 1:38 PM (GMT -6)   
That could just be the cancer treatments making your mom feel weaker, but
hopefully that will improve...many prayers...I'm glad you got a journal...and
you do sound happier...very good....
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   Posted 2/3/2012 8:27 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks... My older brother just got back from Iraq and him going was part of my depression. He wakes up screaming for George to run. George was his best friend and my second brother. He died by a car bomb. Chris keeps on crying.
Depression, anxiety, mom has cancer, dad is dead.....
All alone at home and at school...
It's always the darkest before dawn... Great quote

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   Posted 2/3/2012 9:07 PM (GMT -6)   
It sounds like your brother has some post traumatic stress disorder. It is not uncommon. I hope that he can get though it. Does he talk to anybody like a counselor or anything? It would probably help him a lot. Plus with the grief of losing his friend. It is probably effecting you too. I am sorry for your loss.

How is your mom doing? How are you holding up? Let us know, we want to be there for you.

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