I think I am mentally unstable

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aaron123
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   Posted 2/5/2012 8:29 AM (GMT -6)   
Help guys I feel as though I am mentally unstable. I seem to enjoy when others around me fail, I seem to avoid people and have little interaction's with people, i never had a relationship with a girl I actually don't see the point of relationships.

Here is an example of what I hate about myself but do it anyway: at my uni we got our results of our mock exams and there was 6 in the class including me, I got a good score 70% as well as everyone but one girl. Her marks read 0/100, everybody consoled her, however I felt like I didn't really care and it was not any of my business. Not only that but I actually wanted and did afterwards laughed about it.

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   Posted 2/5/2012 10:35 AM (GMT -6)   
Sounds to me like you aren't very happy or compassionate Aaron... Some of the compassion we learn. I hope you can get though this. Are you seeing anybody? For counseling I mean? You can learn compassion. But you really need to feel it.

When we laugh at others sadness. That is really sad. Please talk to a counselor or psychiatrist about this. This doesn't necessarily make you a bad person, you just have to discover your feelings. Good luck, keep posting. We do all care about you.

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aaron123
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   Posted 2/5/2012 1:06 PM (GMT -6)   
I find it very hard to feel any sympathy, that girl is someone people would consider a 'nice' person she has not done anything wrong to me ever, however I found it funny she completely flopped her test.

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   Posted 2/5/2012 3:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Would you feel anything if someone had laughed at you for getting a poor grade? Would you feel embarrassed, angry, upset, or not care at all (honestly)? There could be something going on neurologically that is making it difficult for you to have basic emotions toward other people. It can be hard to see the benefits of being in a relationship if you have never been in a healthy relationship yourself.

Counseling in addition to appropriate medication might help you. I'm sure you've heard of people who go on certain medication who are left feeling like "zombies" or become flat-lined and emotionless - well, the reverse can be true as well. However, in your case medication would not be the only answer. Cognitive therapy might help you to understand why you feel (or don't feel) the way you do, and start to understand other people a little better and think about things you hadn't considered before. You can retrain yourself to think another way, but it is a long and difficult road. It is worth it once you realize all that other people have to offer in friendships and relationships. Compassion feels good. Apathy can greatly hinder your ability to connect with people and succeed in school, your future career, and personal life.

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aaron123
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   Posted 2/5/2012 5:17 PM (GMT -6)   
I don't care about what people say about me to be honest. Why should I.

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   Posted 2/5/2012 7:43 PM (GMT -6)   
What is your main objective for posting what you did?
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   Posted 2/6/2012 2:23 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome aaron to HW forum...I am so sorry that you have not learned compassion,sympathy or empathy or very important emotions to be missing....I would seek counceling and work very hard to learn these emotions...you may say you don't care however I find that hard to believe otherwise you would not have posted. I think you are a very good person undernealth that armour...you are worth it!!!!


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beagleman
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   Posted 2/7/2012 5:35 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello Aaron, I am probably the opposite end of the scale to yourself, I tend to feel everything. Ok the bad points when I am sad, depressed, it is really abysmal. I see the homeless and really feel sad, to have empathy really means you feel for people. But with the bad you have the good, to feel love, it is so strong, you feel so happy, I feel privilidged that I can feel so strong and I would never give up my feelings.

I suspect because you are on this forum you really have deep feelings, you are searching for answers, and repressing some of your feelings. If you were truly uncaring you would not be searching for answers. I never got a girlfriend untill 2 weeks ago, I am 49, in my case i repressed a lot of my feelings until I was so depressed my life was not worth living. Once I allowed my self to feel everything I knew I was missing friendships, relationship and many other social activities, now i am recovering and not repressing my feelings. Keep searching and you will find answers.

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   Posted 2/8/2012 7:31 AM (GMT -6)   
Some people are born without remorse or compassion-I hope that is not hte case AAron...get your self to a shrink and a neurologist asap before this escalates

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aaron123
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   Posted 2/8/2012 11:07 AM (GMT -6)   
I just feel so moody and misanthropic at times, I just lack so many emotions a human should have. I don't even know why I feel like I should post about my probable problems, i mean I don't care about other peoples opinion of me, but I care about myself and don't want to fall into depression or something.

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   Posted 2/8/2012 3:08 PM (GMT -6)   
If you didn't care Aaron, you wouldn't even be here. I think you want to feel compassion. I think coming here and talking is good for you. But I honestly think talking to a professional.

I think you have taken a huge step coming here and questioning yourself. I wonder if you have been through something that causes you to block out feelings of compassion. Maybe you are afraid that it willl make you feel vunerable. I don't know. I know you say that you don't care about other's opinions, but if you didn't, you wouldn't even have said that. Know we are here to help you get better. But seriously, a professional would be the way for you to go if you are concerned about the way that you feel.

I hope you can get some answers. Keep posting. I think it is good for you. If you are interested, there are some free online sites I can give you. Just let me know...

Take care Aaron...

Hugs, Karen
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